My crush teases me a lot and we have good banter but I think I’m dense cause he pointed out a missed chance to tease him back, does he like me?

[Anonymous]

He starts a good amount conversations (I do show interest by asking him lots of questions or making jokes), responds really quickly 2-10mins usually , sends me videos/songs he thinks I would like and is teaching me and my friends a software we’ve wanted to learn for a while and invites my friends to hang out with us at lunchtime and gets a long with them.

I have no relationship experience and I am quite shy when it comes to showing interest.

Him asking me to tease him more is a new thing

[Oliverlogan263]

To me, it really does sound like this guy is into you. The way he goes out of his way to start conversations and always responds so quick shows he's interested for sure. Guys don't usually make that kind of effort if they just want to be friends.

Him pointing out you should tease him back more is a pretty clear sign he thinks the flirting and banter between you is fun. We guys like it when a girl can joke around with us, it shows you're comfortable and having a good time.

I'd say next chance you get, tee up a playful joke about him or the situation. Give him a bit of that sass back and see how excited he gets to shoot more back and forth with you. If he likes engaging with you that way, he's probably feeling you.

Also try opening up your conversation some. Share deeper stuff so he can see what a cool, thoughtful person is behind that pretty face. Compliment him here and there too to let him know you think he's pretty dope as well.

Give it some time playing out naturally. From the sound of things though, this guy is really feeling your energy. Just go with the flow sis, keep having fun with him. Let him know you're enjoying chatting too in your own way. I'm sure things will develop between you cuties soon enough!

[Asker]

Thank you for your help! A bit more context since I couldn’t fit it in the question area. He more of a quiet person by nature but recently has been more social recently hence my confusion. So far we have deep talks about childhood, where we can’t to live in the future communication styles, medical history to name a few. Our longest time we’ve texted is 19 days non stop till I panicked and decided to take a breather for a day plus I had a family event that made me busy. We have random calls where we just hang out (our last one went on for 3 hours until 2:30AM Monday morning) we hang out 2-3 times a week due to uni and also play a table top game once a week.

I set myself mini homework to show interest so I compliment him more and try mirror his actions back to him and finally when I flirt with him he gets shy over text which is fascinating cause he a confident person.

At this point should I hint that I’m open to is going in a date? I feel like we are at a stand still

[Oliverlogan263]

You're welcome and from everything you've described, I'd say this guy is pretty clearly into you. Having deep personal conversations, texting non-stop for days on end, hanging out regularly, 3 hour phone calls late into the night - those are all super strong signs.

The fact that he gets shy when you flirt back shows he's feeling some type of way about you too. Guys don't usually show that kind of vulnerability if there aren't real feelings involved, you know?

At this point it does seem like you're both kind of dancing around the real subject without actually addressing it. It's been building up for a while through all your interactions.

I'd say go for gently hinting about wanting to take things to the next level. Like next time you're chatting, maybe something like "You know, I really enjoy all the time we've been spending together lately. I was wondering if you'd maybe want to go out sometime, just the two of us?"

See how he reacts to that suggestion. If he seems excited or open to it, great - you'll know the interest is mutual and can start officially dating. And even if he's shy again, I'm sure he'll say yes deep down!

You've got nothing to lose by laying your card on the table finally. Go for it! I have a feeling this could turn into something awesome between you two. You've got this, luc.

[Oliverlogan263]

Luv I meant