Guys, will you ask for help if you need it?

[_Maya_]

For the girls, does you man ask for help when he needs it?

This can be for anything. Directions, help around the house, etc.

Yes

No

[dynamicyandere]

I enjoy being self-sufficient and independent, especially in the context of romantic relationships.


I’m the rock in our relationship when we’re going through tough times.



But, I’ll ask for help in situations where it’s an opportunity to spend quality time together, or if I believe it’ll help nurture the relationship.


For example, I know how to cook, and my culinary skills are more refined than my partner’s.

But, even if I could prepare a nice dinner for us both, it always feels more intimate when we’re cooking together.


So, that’s a situation where I would intentionally ask for assistance, even though I don’t technically need it, since she enjoys spending time with me and doing activities together.


And, she enjoys feeling helpful.


If it will help nurture our relationship, I’ll ask for assistance, with that in mind.


I believe she does the same with me when it comes to opening jars, haha.


There have been plenty of times where I opened something for her and I thought to myself, “Could you really not open that?”
🫙🧐🙂

[Andres77]

I don’t enjoy asking for help so I make an effort to do everything possible that I can, to the point where I’ve developed some interesting feats of engineering to move heavy things on my own so I wouldn’t have to bother anyone. If I ask for help then people know that I really need the help. and when they show up, I don’t want them to look at the challenge that I had and think that I was lazy and just wanted somebody else to do it for me.. so I really try to do everything on my own. but if I can’t, I’m out realistic enough to make the call and ask for help because if I get hurt, then I can’t do anything on my own.

[_Maya_]

That's fair.

[MiddleAgedClimbee]

Smart move or not overexerting! I'm sure they're feats of strength. You look back on from your younger years in wonder how it happened.

[Bethany22]

Yes, men ask for help when they need it. They are different than women that way. So if a guy doesn't ask you for help, do not help him, as that will make him feel smothered and that you don't trust his ability to do the task well himself.

[Anonymous]

I guess it just depends on if he thinks he can handle the situation, but I'd say, deep stuff, yes, he asks for help and I'm all for it.

[_Maya_]

The way it should be. Thanks!

[NathanDavis]

Yes, of course...

I've never had any kind of problem asking, or better said needing some help with some things

being a resourceful and very helpful person myself I know very well how it is to be on the other side, both sides, actually... and yes, I also like to do most things on my own, to come up with solutions, I like a challenge sometimes and solve things too, but sometimes, there are some things in which I know they have to be done well and if it is something I don't know how to do it well enough or know nothing about it... I will get the help of those who know their stuff

and this can also lead to another great thing I like, learning more and learning new stuff... most of the stuff I can do on my own I know how to do it because once upon time not only I asked for help with it but I also learned from them about how to do these things myself

[aceleon]

i don't know how to ask for help, in everyday situations i can do it but even those times i feel out of sorts, i'm too used to never needing anyone else asking for help makes me feel like i'm doing something i shouldn't even bother to do, i know how to manipulate or coerc people, i know how to use force, i know how to make people gave in but when i think about it, i never learned how to ask for help properly, it was either i do everything myself or use a way to make others do that for me staying invulnerable.

[MrOracle]

It depends on what kind of help you are talking about. Help carrying someone big in the house, or picking me up if I have to put a car in the shop? Sure.

For a personal problem? I would talk to my guy friends if needed to talk to someone. I've seen way too many women lose respect for a guy because he was emotionally vulnerable with his woman, and women will always use such issues against him later on - even 20 years later, she will still use it against him. I'm not falling for that.

One of the things my girl admires about me is my emotional stability. I'm her emotional rock. Undermining that does no good for a man.

[glennos89]

In some cases yes, if I'm lost and need directions I will ask.

But not when I struggle in household things like keeping my house clean and laundry. Its every once in a while a complete mess when I'm stressed.

A friend of me is occasionally asking me if I need help with anything but I don't feel okay to use her help for things I can myself but sometimes just mess up.

Sometimes when I'm lonely or having things on my mind that are stressing me out, I really could someone who just listens to my complains. But I feel that I shouldn't do that because nobody likes to hear a bunch of negativity so I don't wanne bother anyone with my bs

[Krillanr]

I would be willing to if I thought those who heard me would both care, and be able to assist me.

For instance, the only issue that plagues me currently. I know some women, but I know a lot of fellow guys. They're all great people and I'm glad to know them.

But, as I try to get more feminine perspectives in my sphere of influence around me, I find that many women are either too superficial/air headed to get along with long term, or they are too traumatized or (I'm going to become a timid deer if you do or say anything that I could possibly wonder about.), for me to have much success in befriending new women.

Bit long winded, but ya see my point. All I can do is continue being friendly and trying to assemble a roster of friendly and relaxed enough to actually let me relax, women.

Que Sera, Sera

Take care.

[MiddleAgedClimbee]

I'm very good at realizing when I've left something up or has done something wrong, and apologizing, but asking for help in order to correct the problem can be a challenge. I'm definitely good at asking for help for random every day tasks and encourage my kids to be helpful for our family and with friends :-)

[MiddleAgedClimbee]

*"effed" something up, *have done something wrong

[WhiteSteve]

Sometimes. I haven’t been good about that at jobs, historically, but that’s more due to my lack of confidence in others to do things in the correct way I would have done them. When I’d delegate, they’d almost always not perform the task satisfactorily, and I’d end up having to re-do it the right way, so I usually just skip the middle man. I wish people weren’t such idiots, lmfao, it was always really basic stuff🤦‍♂️

[Mansearching]

Yes I have. My back went out one time. Had to ask my bestie (female) to help me shower. Of course she said yes. No problems with it. She just showered with me or after she helped me out. We saw each other naked plenty of times so nothing was new to look at. Except when she washed my bat and balls I got hard immediately. Only thing she said it was easier to wash... lol

[Sparkie460]

If I tried every way possible on my own and I still can't do something, that's when I ask for help. I'm pretty good at rigging up things to get really hard tasks done. I ask for help as an extreme last resort

[_Maya_]

Fair enough! Thanks.

[Grond21]

I'm certainly willing to ask for directions.

I think in terms of something deeper like psychological or emotional help, the problem is that I'm not sure I would always recognize that I actually need help. Nor would I know who to ask.

[_Maya_]

Good answer.

[Grond21]

Thank you

[MikeTheBartender]

Yes... But never from family, and I do EVERYTHING in my power in general to not ask for help first.

[_Maya_]

I think most people try not to until the really need it. Thanks.

[MikeTheBartender]

Of course ❤️

[TonyMetal___86]

Yes, miss bartender maya, if i need something i might ask for help because i already help anyone who asks for my help, ofc depending on what kind of help they want and in my limits...

[_Maya_]

Good man right here!

[TonyMetal___86]

Thanks 😊

[Still-alive]

I really never got the issue with other dudes doing this. yes i will ask if i truly don't know something. i especially don't wanna waste time guessing and getting it wrong lol

[_Maya_]

Unfortunately not everyone on the post agrees with logic lol

[Constatine]

Sure why not... I am only Human..

I don't know everything, I can't do everything.. Iand I don't want to... So mlst logical next step... Ask!

[Jbear27]

Nope. I never ask for help from my woman. I tried being vulnerable a few times in the past with women and I think they see it as a sign of weakness and tend to lose some respect for you. So as unfortunate as it is, I don’t be making that mistake again

[love_conquers_lust]

What do you make of people who respond “If you don’t want my help, then don’t ask for it.”?

[_Maya_]

No one has ever said that to me. 😆 Sounds a bit harsh...

[love_conquers_lust]

Is it arrogance to refuse advice I asked for that I don’t agree with it? What if I’m right? Does that make it wisdom?

[_Maya_]

I don't think it is arrogant to refuse advice you don't agree with. There is such a thing called bad advice...

[BoopBoopBeep]

Absolutely. It is always good to know who has your back. You can always say "nevermind I got this after all"

[CubaPirate]

Reluctantly yes lol. by the way I just got my old account back thanks. I tried to message you about that but your account won't allow it

[_Maya_]

I'm so glad they got your account back!

[CubaPirate]

I tried to message you to give you my thanks for your assistance in the matter but I've just do that here now lol

[Joshydavid25]

Yeah, I usually don't only because I don't like bothering people if I don't need to, so I try my best to do things on my own before I ask for me..

[Angxl3120]

Ofc I would why would someone not help and person in need.