Should I just stfu and move on?

[Angel_cakess]

Long story short, my friend invited me to a cabin. Everyone was drunk including myself, there were limited places to sleep and I ended up cuddling up with one of the guys there. We started making out and next thing I remember is him telling me “just the tip.” I don’t remember say yes or no to this but I do remember it happening. We woke up in the morning and I wanted to cuddle but he didn’t put his arms around me so I turned over and he got up and started packing. He gave me a hug goodbye but that was it. I’ve never felt rejected in this way and It’s really bothering me on the inside. I thought he would have messaged me on instagram saying he had a good time or something. Not sure how to get over this. I thought about messaging him but I don’t want to come off desperate or clingy.

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You guys my friend just told me he has a girlfriend SMH

[DannyUk2017]

Yeah so of "this guy cheated" on his girlfriend with you, then that is what i call Drunken sex.
That is what i say over and over again... all them in these days know is... Drunken oarty, drunken sex, next day get up and leave like Nothing happened. Then after 4months you feel like you gaining weight and try to "remeber" where all started? 🤔🤷‍♂️🤦‍♂️

[bededazzle]

no harm in reaching out once if you want to. then you won’t have to wonder and the choice will be clearer after that. but yeah, if he was into you he probably would have reached out

[Angel_cakess]

I don’t know what I would even say, I feel like he’s embarrassed that it happened that’s why he hasn’t reached out

[bededazzle]

i’ve had ambiguous situations with women. the way i found was to think what i wanted. sometimes i wanted clearer communication/was interested in someone, and i value direct communication. so i would reach out and feel out the situation and say my piece if it seemed at all worth it. anyhow, he may be embarrassed or not interested, but so what? reach out if that’s what you want to do and take it from there. otherwise, you can move on. it doesn’t sound promising, but i personally would rather have closure. it doesn’t make you desperate. it makes you a communicating adult

[Angel_cakess]

Thank you for this because I value clear communication as well. I’m not expecting anything to go further but it’s weird for me to act like nothing happened. What would you suggest I say?

[bededazzle]

Just ask him how he's doing. You can say what's basically true and let him know that you'd love to see him again. Full disclosure, I am personally a failure at relationships, but I think I am really good at supporting others :). No matter what happens, focus on your own values to attract the right man.

[Altheavas]

Stfu and move on. Don’t expected anything.
What you called Friends are not your friends.

[spartan55]

So if he messages you it's all good, but if you message him than you are desperate? So stupid...

[spartan55]

Re update: no wonder you didn't hear from him.

[Angel_cakess]

Right I was like wow, but at least that explains it

[spartan55]

Learn anything?

[Angel_cakess]

Yes 😔 to not drink to the point where I’ll do things that Ill regret

[gorydetails]

Yes, stfu and move on. You hooked up with a stranger and can't expect a relationship afterward.

[Angel_cakess]

He wasn’t a stranger, I’ve known him since high school but yeah I just need to get over it, I wasn’t expecting a relationship but at least some acknowledgment that it happened

[gorydetails]

When you engage in hookup culture, what do you expect?

[Staximus]

He may only remember as much as you or less, or more. You already had sex with the guy, I don't see why you would be embarrassed to message him. Ask him "do you remember fucking at the cabin?" or something like that

[JackStany]

Don't expect anything; expectations will disappoint you.

[Avicenna]

I wouldn't message him if I were you

[Angel_cakess]

How do you suggest I get over it? It’s really bothering me

[Avicenna]

Meeting other guys will make you forget him quickly

[bededazzle]

you’ll get over it no matter what you do

[AviatorTom]

Its always ok to just move on.

[Iron_Man]

Message him and talk

[Angel_cakess]

And say what? 😭 I feel like I will come off crazy

[Iron_Man]

Just have a normal conversation and see where it leads to

[bededazzle]

don’t do what i did and waste your 20s being worried about how you still perceived in dating. this will keep you from attracting the right partner

[DextroShade]

Pumped and dumped!