What does this mean when a guy acts like this?

[Anonymous]

I'm talking to a guy. We text everyday just about. He's seems to always be super caring and he remembers the smallest details from previous conversations. He's usually a fast responder and we seem to have a lot in common. He is always giving me compliments and sweet-talking me. Always mentioning dates, date ideas, and how we would be the dynamic duo and couple... but when I call his bluff and ask when we're going on a date or if we are going to get into a relationship, he always avoids the question, yet still acts the same. I cut him off a few months ago without warning because of him constantly dodging the question. He continued to try to get in contact with me and I recently started talking to him again because I thought, just one more chance. Nothing has seemed to change. What does this mean? He told me awhile back, and completely on his own, that he fully intends on asking me out but he's wanting to be "fully available" for me. That of course never happened. I am genuinely interested in this guy, and I feel that I've made that very very clear to him. He's consistently making it super clear to me through his words that he's interested in pursuing a relationship with me but as soon as I ask about it, he goes silent. I just don't get it because this is all on his own, I never suggest anything first. Why go as far as to ask about dates and talk about being a couple if you don't want that with someone?

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm, that is a weird situation. This guy seems kind of confused or unsure about what he wants. On one hand it sounds like he really likes you and you guys get along great. But then when you try to actually make plans or define what's going on, he gets all flakey.

A few thoughts:
- He might say he wants a relationship but maybe isn't actually ready for one yet. Some guys get scared when it starts to feel real.
- He could also be talking to or interested in other girls too. So he enjoys your attention but doesn't want to commit fully yet in case something better comes along.
- Maybe he's got some baggage from previous relationships that makes him hesitant now. Or anxiety about things getting too serious too fast.

Either way, it's not really fair to you if he's sending mixed signals and won't give you a straight answer. You deserve someone who knows what they want and isn't afraid to actually date you! I'd say either give him like one more chance to show he's serious... or just start moving on and don't waste your time waiting around for him to figure it out. You're young - don't settle for a flakey dude if you don't have to!

[ThrillSeeker01]

It sounds like games to me (which I don't have a lot of patience with).

[ThrillSeeker01]

Thanks for the MHO.

[WhitneySnow]

He probably already has a girlfriend but wishes he could have you too

[spartan55]

What a moron. Stop wasting your time.