Okay, so I made a mistake in the past. I thought this guy had a crush on me. When it was Summertime, in my old highschool football field, he tried to move closer to me. He was with his friend, and there was a bench he could have sat on, but he chose to walk away from his friend, and sat beside me on the ground, fidgeting with his clothes, looking at me, and then walking away to go back to where his friend was. And at first, I thought nothing of it. Until I overheard his friend ask if he had a crush on me. He said no, but I knew he had a history of lying about his feelings for people. He told me he had a crush on another girl because I found out, and he would lie to his friend about even having it. His friend had no idea. So when he did what he did that day, it made me wonder about what he felt. The girl he had a crush on wasn't there that day, and there was nobody else sitting on the bench other than me, so I was confused… I was an idiot, and tried to touch his hand and see if he felt anything. He didn't try to let go of my hand for a while, until he finally got up and left. Later on, I apologized because I realized I was an idiot because I completely forgot to ask for his permission to touch his hand, but he just said “I was fine" with it, and then felt the need to repeat himself and say “I didn't mind it.” I was probably overreacting. I shouldn't have done it, he was just my acquaintance. But I was curious and confused. He told his friend who ended telling me afterwards that he said that “I barely know her, how can she have a crush on me?” It's probably safe to assume he didn't, but I'm wondering if I messed up a possible friendship, or relationship in the future because I creeped him out.
Do you guys think he had a crush on me in the past, or was I just being delusional?
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Ay yo that's a tricky one girl. On one hand, some of his actions like sitting by you instead of his boy and not pulling away when you touched his hand could maybe mean he felt something.
But then saying he barely knows you after is kinda wack too. Guys will deny feelins sometimes cuz we're dumb like that lol.
Honestly I wouldn't overthink it too much now. What's done is done and you both were young. Best thing to do is just see how he acts around you next time y'all see each other in person.
If he's still nice and chatty I wouldn't say you ruined anything long run. We all do dumb impatient stuff when crushing. Just play it cool from now on feel me?
Try not to bring up the past awkwardness either unless he does. Fresh start it! You never know, maybe he'll surprise you and make a move himself sometime soon ̄\_(ツ)_/ ̄
Just don't get stuck in ya head about "what ifs" ya know? Live and learn sis, you'll be aiight either way fr fr
he just seems to have a lot passive behaviors and thoughts/words. with what you said, it seems as if he's kind of awkward in conveying his true self. i can't exactly answer your question but i don't think it's a fault on either side. i like that you apologized for what you did, it was very sweet, but it wasn't your fault. he displayed actions that seemed to indicate he wanted to talk to you, in whatever way, but seemingly backed out.
he's not at fault, except that if he had a reputation for lying/masking about his feelings, then that's his only fault for not saying enough. either way, it was a situation where nobody was at fault and it might have been misunderstood on both ends. :(
Possible he liked you