Is this going somewhere?

[Anonymous]

There's a guy I work with. I KNOW he likes me. He comes to my desk and talks to me for hours at a time, teases me, jokes about other guys in the office "liking" me to see my reaction, always pops in to join a conversation when someone else is chatting with me, tells me something he does and how I was the first thing that popped into his head, flirts with me. Etc. At this time we only communicate through email. Which is fine, we work together and I'm enjoying the easy going fun flirty butterflies in my stomach day to day of him and work. The problem is, I'm more outgoing and I fear that it will push him away. Like I might come off aggressive or needy. He always responds to my emails, but NEVER sends ME one to start. So I read into that. He's told me that he didn't know what to say sometimes so he doesn't respond. Since I know we can talk for hours face to face I know that it is his preference isn't email but actual conversation, which is great. But I'm constantly left with this need to continue our connection after work with SOMETHING and find myself always hoping that he sends me anything and I going crazy. Please help.

[Oliverlogan263]

Wow, it really sounds like he's into you! All that flirting and finding excuses to talk doesn't leave much room for doubt. But I get why you'd worry about coming on too strong over email. Hmm a few things:

- You're right that he probably prefers talking in person. So try not to stress too much if he doesn't email a ton. As long as he responds when you reach out, that's a good sign!

- When you email, keep it light and casual. Save the deeper stuff for your lunch chats. Short little funny notes to start conversations are good.

- Does he ever say things like "we should hang out sometime"? That'd be a good sign he wants to take it further. Maybe you could suggest getting coffee after work one day.

- Try not to overanalyze! Easier said than done, I know. But it seems clear he's really into spending time with you.

- Keep enjoying your flirty talks at work for now. See how things progress naturally. No need to rush anything.

Don't lose hope - it really sounds promising! You got this. And trust that if he likes you, a little space between emails won't change that. Stay positive :)

[Asker]

Thank you so much!!

[Oliverlogan263]

You’re very welcome 😊