- I'm the only girl in my class who dont talk to boys uselessly and if does it was rare (school related work only). There was a boy in my class who study with me since childhood. He didn't act like that before but after covid when we finally meet
- He stare at me everyday from 2yrs. He never look away and stare at me with straight face until i look away.When, he talks to me he always have soft and low tone but he talk other girls normally, bit loudly, tease. He never tease me.
- Lastyr, he behave protective toward me from boys. But not now, but he was kind and caring till now.Once we bump i hurt later he ask"do u hurt much?"
THIS WAS THE FIRST TIME WHEN HE BEHAVE LIKE THIS TO ME.
1) I scold him previous year for his mistake which make our class embarrase in front of whole school. But he didn't say anything at that time and only looking in my eyes shokingly. When teacher talk him about that topic he answer very angrily.
2) Incident of few month ago
- I have the responsibility to manage everything and i was pissed off that day cauz i am not well too.
- We both have minor argument for first time, i say little loudly (not talking rudely) cauz its lunch time but he reply back rudely while standing furiously i was bit hurt but myfriend stand to support so i dont say anything again.
- I dont know i feel guilty afterall its his mistake and he too talk back rudely. But icant control and go to apologize himdont know why? after 3days.
- say"sorry"but he replied"what?"(while writing his practicle file) then say "aa for talking rudely" he say "its okay"(still writing). I feel embarrase and walk as fast as ican toward class from lab.
- He was call my name when i turn he coming towards me almost running (while smiling looks little teasing) he say "no need to say sorry, i didn't mind"(with smile teasingly) i dont say anything and went toward the class.
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4 mo
He was giving me "death glare" for 2days before i apologize.
But why he became again soft towards me when i apologize to him and reply like that?
Next day i caught him staring at me with dreamy face with a smile at first i thought maybe he stare at someone else but he was staring at me.
When i ask what? He nod as nothing and continue to stare with smile.
please SHARE UR OPINIONS AND ADVICES ABOUT HIS BEHAVIOUR
THANK U🙃
But why he became again soft towards me when i apologize to him and reply like that?
Next day i caught him staring at me with dreamy face with a smile at first i thought maybe he stare at someone else but he was staring at me.
When i ask what? He nod as nothing and continue to stare with smile.
please SHARE UR OPINIONS AND ADVICES ABOUT HIS BEHAVIOUR
THANK U🙃
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that means he was angry but when you apologized he liked that and accepted your apology.
Thanks for sharing ur opinion☺
But why he accept my apologize by saying those lines teasegly i didn't say anything wrong i just say sorry. its another thing i dont talk to boys but if i do mistake i apologize to anyone so why he also behave again politely as before and again give those stares.
@ktcsr
Well... Most likely, He liked Your humility. It's quite a rare trait these days, You know? He most likely truly didn't mind You being rude that one time, meaning He did not hate You for that, but it might have made Him remind Himself that this world is hateful and cruel, and thus Your apology Has immediately changed this mood of His as He understood You were one of those who are imperfect (well, everyone is imperfect), but You've got enough humility in Yourself to apologize properly, thus He classified You as a Person of Goodwill (He might have a different name for this category, I used the name I'd use in this case).
@CalmUntilAbused Thanku for giving an intresting opinion☺.
I know that he accept my apology but i was confused that why he say" he didn't mind and i dont have to say sorry" in teasing tone with a smile?
In my opinion i didn't say anything more to him than a sincere apology. I was thinking that , did he take my apology as a confession that i like? Or did he think that i like him and he was special to me so that i apologize to him? Because he stare at me everyday from 2yrs since we meet again and have that behaviour that i described above.
Is He still kind and caring towards You? It's kind of hard to tell, to be honest. If He is, or at least if He's simply friendly towards You, He might consider You as a potential partner, it's just that:
- He is not desperate to find one,
- He is not sure of Your attitude towards Him, and trying to hit on a woman who does not want it is basically a prolonged suicide for a man these days,
- He wants You to send a positive signal.
If He does what You understand as flirting, He must consider You a person worth His time, it's just that making the actual first move can prove deadly for a man these days, so He's most likely waiting for some hints from Your side.
@CalmUntilAbused He was my classmate and yes he is caring towards me, once i am not well so i hung low my head when i turn toward my friend (he also sit in that direction) he was already straight looking at me. in lunch, while talking to my friends and many other time too i notice him looking at me but i act like i dont notice everyday.
Once i was anchoring the teachers day event i wear just a casual short kurti with jeans, use a bit of daily cream and lip balm, a small pearl earring and simple ponytail (which i do everyday) other girls wear saree, kurti and makeup with lipstick too who participate i look simple in comparison with all of them but I caught him staring at me again and again only. When i and my friend was backstage he was also sitting there with his friends , his friends were busy in talking and he only stare at my face with a smile only. He sit little far then me. I ignore him but when i turn my head to check he was staring already like that.
I want to know what he want or show to me. I ask some questions and almost most replies say "he likes u/crush on u".
I was confused and a bit nervous to talk boys. Nowdays, he gone to play cricket from our school so he didn't attend school.
@CalmUntilAbused But when he was there and if i intentionally to see his reaction didn't notice him at least once in a day he fake a couch if i acciedently look at him he was already looking at me with his innocent face (he have baby face, fair tone so he was a goodlooking boy in all of the boys of my class as well as senior). One of my femalefriend always try to talk with him by sometime making dumb excuse too. He talk to girls but not in the gentle, soft tone as he talk with me. Last yr, he talk me nonverbally but from this year he talk verbally too.
I always notice that many boys of my class and other class too stare at me. I caught them many times a day staring at me but no one behave like him they behave only as a gentalman classmates. But he was the only one who show his care, protectivness.
Once, he ask me for my copy to see the notes when i was giving my copy to him he was not looking there so i pass the copy to his seatmate when he return the copy he only give in my hands only not anyone else. He do this many times. Once he ask for the copy after sometime his seatmate also ask for my other subject copy (the boy staring at my face when his seatmate ask for the copy) i deny him cauz i didn't write the assignment but he again and again asking so i pass the copy but the boy take my copy to give him.
I sometime find him bit childish and funny but didn't react like that in front of him.
I was the assignment monitor so i have to write in the assi. register and get the sign of sub. teacher but there was one coloum remained i was looking at the register and making a pout. I was unaware he was looking at me cauz he sit beside me in other row. He ask me in low voice"do u want to get the sign of the teacher" i politely say "no its ok".
Last year, i was crying cauz of a reason silently but i didn't cover my facefully one of his friend saw me i dont know his friend told about me or he saw himself.
He was looking at me until i stop crying. I mostly notice if i ask q/a from a male teacher or a boy talk to me for any school related work he was staring at us but didn't give any reaction. One of my physics who (married some days ago) sometime jockingly/teasingly say anything to me (i'm a good student but he casually teases me like-if i was smiling cauz of my friends talk he ask why are u smiling or anything funny) i was little shy type (if my friends talk i blushed too) so i blushed/shy he was staring at me with normal look (but it look serious to me) WHY?
he was extrovert, outspoken to anyone so if he have anything to say why he didn't. Once, he stare at me dreamly with a smile (few done before too) so i ask what? He just nodded as nothing and continue this. I didn't get his intension.
Oh... As a rule of thumb, if He treats You in a different way, He sees You in a different way. If He's soft and gentle towards You, He most probably likes You. And a dreamy expression while looking at You is just strengthening this assumption. The real question is, what do You want to do about it?
@CalmUntilAbused i was confused cauz maybe his action shows he like me but what if he really didn't do? What was ur opinion is he really or not?
This was the when i was starting the journey of my career by working for it.
I am a shy type only open to females, those who are close to me and talk me well. If i have to talk to boys i can but not that much openly at school too i just talk with a normal face boldly without any smile.
He was an extrovert and outgoing boy he talks to every girl and tease them but never dare to tease me. And he was the first boy with whom i argue a little (if have another i didn't remember)
He can also say what he want cauz he observe me and know my nature well so why he didn't we only have last year after that we all go different places to study and maybe never meet.
I was thinking that maybe in future if he say something first i prefer to be casually a friend. Because i want to focus my career when i reach my aim than i see what happen and what can i do? Maybe he find somelse more better than me.
Well... It's up to You, but He sure is treating You differently in a positive way, and I highly doubt there is a better option for any man than a shy/reserved woman.
@CalmUntilAbused Thanku ☺ but sorry i dont get the point of the line ( better option.)
I mean, shy/reserved women are usually the most loyal, kind and caring, so it's unlikely for that man You're aware of to find someone better than You.
@CalmUntilAbused But i am not pretty (even if many boys of my schools stare at me) and not rich too his both parents have jobs and they are rich, maybe girls dont find his behaviour good cauz he tease them or sometime make fun of them but he was good looking too and other maleclassmate also agree with this about him cauz they tell sometime in front of whole class. He have everything and we are classmates since childhood so every classmate knows the condition of everyone in the class he also know my condition well too (my father was a tutor and go to teach a student who lives near his house, my female friend live there too and she tell that she saw my father and that boy house was also there)(my father dont know him but he saw my father cauz he come eveyday to drop and pick me from school) so why he do this only to me. There are other girls in our class, school who have good financial status than me.
I was really confused and bit pissed off from my situation and there was last option for me to ask others cauz i have good impression at school and dont want to ruin by telling this to others and my parents never understand my problem and blam me.
I can tell You one thing about this "not pretty" claim: I've only ever heard that phrase from absolutely beautiful girls and women. What they all indeed lacked was being flashy, but to be honest, that's actually yet another positive trait.
As for why He's doing what He's doing... I guess He might be affluent, but He's one of the reasons why "eat the rich" is a failure of an idea. He's affluent, but also responsible and kind. And He's definitely seen some good in You, and it's significant enough for Him to directly protect it.
@CalmUntil Abused so in ur opinion what should i do?
First of all i want to support my parents by getting a good job.
But what he was just pretend to be like that i can't trust anyone cauz my friends and relatives always betray me and my parents.
And if he like me he can also tell me if not by himself but from other way but he just doing such things for me.
He come to school from Monday (i get to know cauz my female friends also select for play chess and they all go together with teachers) i try to notice his behaviour after coming back maybe he find somelse there too.
But he behave same with me always not show any change.
If there are other girls with me he only stare at me always but i thank to god that no one notice instead of me.
But i was bit afraid if anyone start noticing this what happen? My reputation ruined by that cauz my teacher always say to my parents that i was the only girl who have good manner to talk with everyone and other things too.
I was sometime tensed but bit shocked that he do this why no one notice that he stare at me everyday even accidently can notice but i didn't hear yet.