Why would a guy interrupt a conversation and introduce himself, if you already know him when your talking to some other guy?

[Anonymous]

I am a female, who went to a staff party. When I arrived at the pub I got drinks, I noticed that my coworker glancing at me. After I got my drinks and left, some other guy started a conversation with me then the coworker walked up to us. He interrupted the conversation and introduced himself to me first and shook my hand smiling then introduced himself to the guy and didn’t shake the guy’s hand. After I finished the conversation with the guy that was talking to me, I was going to head home when I was interrupted by my coworker again. He said goodbye and it would be nice to see me again, giving me another hand shake but seemed prolonged. We stood there holding hands for a couple of minutes while he was staring straight into my eyes. I slowly took my hand away confused why he didn’t let go of my hand after the handshake. Am I reading too much into things or is it possibly that there was something else going on?

[blueonblack22]

What an insecure dbag. He thinks he is impressing you by acting “domineering” over the other guy who were talking to. I really hope you weren’t turned on at all by his phony and rude display of dominance.

He obviously likes you and can’t control his jealousy about it. The drinks probably lowered his self control and he acted out on it. He thinks being rude and overbearing is somehow “alpha” or some bs. In reality that is about as beta as he can get.

This would be a different story if you were already dating him. But what’s even worse he is doing this to a coworker. Does his dumbass not know he can get fired if he isn’t careful?

Unless he sincerely apologizes for how he acted (and still be leery after that) then please ignore this guy as much as possible. If he insists on starting a conversation tell him you prefer to keep things professional. Even tell him straight up he acted unnecessarily extremely rude at the pub if you feel confident to call him out on it.

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm that is kinda weird. Like you said, you already know the coworker so no need for the whole introduction thing. And holding your hand for that long during the goodbye is definitely not normal.

My best guess would be he's into you and was trying to shoot his shot. Interrupting your conversation to butt in like that, then staring into your eyes all intense during the handshake - he was probably trying to make a move. Too bad for him it just came off as creepy!

I'd say trust your gut - if it made you uncomfortable, there's a good chance he was crossing some lines. Might be worth keeping an eye on him at work, make sure he doesn't take it further. But try not to stress too much either, probably just an awkward dude who can't take a hint. You handled it well getting away from that handhold situation!

[AutumnSerenity]

It’s a sneaky way of cutting off the guy that’s talking to you (since he can easily play dumb and say “Oh, that’s right! We’ve already met!”) By then the ice is broken, your current conversation is sabotaged, and he can start asking you follow-up questions like “So how have you been?” while blocking the other guy’s chance. Sounds like you’re surrounded by sharks. Good luck.

[Alwayreckles93]

He was very rude of him to interrupted the conversation. If you feel that something seemed off with him trust your gut. He is weirdo.

[DaveJord]

To me it is rather obvious, and I think you know exactly what I mean.

I mean for most descent men these days that work in a professional environment, you maintain a reasonable amount of discretion with women co-workers. But outside the office, you can afford to be a little less discrete if there is a sincere interest for you.

So obviously, I think he came to this event with some type of agenda to get your attention or make his interest known. And before he could work up the courage or way to go about it, you were sitting down with another guy. So, he intentionally interrupted you two to get your attention. Then made an effort to say goodbye to you to enforce the fact that he wants you know he is interested.

Now for me, it sounds like an awkward way to go about it. I mean it could come off as creepy as hell, or kind of sweet... but chances are it's not the best way to make your interest known.

[Avicenna]

Sounds like he is interested in you and wanted to cockblock the other guy

[spartan55]

Why did you let him interrupt your conversations (twice)?

[ProbablyClueless]

Because he was trying to get a feel for whether the other guy was flirting with you.

[PrettyCrumblBb]

He's a serial killer

[In_Trance]

No idea. You'd have to ask him

[Anonymous]

Because he's unpolite

[Mkh85]

Jealous