Why do some men only gain interest after the woman loses interest?

[DeJjjj]

You liked him romantically, he wasn’t interested, so you lost interest in that way and treated him as friend but now he’s interested in you.

[Finchie40]

Because sadly most people in general don’t realize how good they have it with someone , until it’s almost gone or it’s gone. it’s basically a wake up call to stop looking elsewhere and to start looking at what is right in front of you. You eventually realize how much that person truly means to you and the thought of losing them hits you like a ton of bricks , leaving you a choice on whether you want them in your life or not. The truth is you don’t walk away from someone you love period. But If they choose to walk away from you? , they never truly loved you to begin with , so let them go , Love is a powerful feeling , we all want to be loved and want to feel wanted , but we can only feel loved and wanted by receiving what we are giving , and sometimes we give without receiving so , you have a choice on what you choose to do. Think about a loved one passing away unexpectedly? , we usually feel like we didn’t give them enough , because we were looking elsewhere , caught up on our own personal lives , instead of looking at what was right in front of us the whole time. Love is a choice , so it’s best to appreciate what you have instead of focusing on what you don’t have. Sadly most people focus on what they don’t have

[TheGuyWhoKnowsStuff]

Most likely it was your accessibility. Scarcity has value so we want what we can't have. When you were available you lacked value to him because you were so accessible. Now, you are unavailable and he's realised that you've become scarce thus valuable, which has piqued his interest. However, interest on this level is very shallow and doesn't suggest he is genuinely interested in you as a long-term girlfriend.

Other things could factor in too like a change of a hairstyle, different makeup, his mental health improving, etc.

[Account]

I think that is not a gender thing. It is a human thing. I have noticed this on humans in general. They don't want something/someone that is guaranteed and that they can easily have. They get the thrill of chasing when the other person is unavailable to them.

[ChicoFromThe305]

This happens with women too, I would assume it's cause no one likes knowing that someone is losing interest in you, what he is showing isn't really interest in you, it's interest in the idea on why you aren't interested in him anymore, he's used to your interest so when he saw it wasn't there anymore, boom.

[Anonymous]

Well if she's interested you don't have we to show interest. You already got her. If she loses interest she's like a dog that got off her leash and escape from the yard. You gotta find her and bring her back. It's just the responsible thing to do.

[Billlewis]

Because a woman who treats us poorly is much more appealing than a woman who is overly nice to us.

[AMS700CX4u2]

Oh, don't it seem to go, that you don't know what you've got till it's gone.

[TheSpaceGnome]

It takes time to be interested, you went too fast for him.

I'd know I'm interested after knowing a woman for a few years.

[TheSpaceGnome]

And in those few years we'd need to be friends who hang out a lot.

[Jamie05rhs]

Sometimes it just takes a while. And the timing between two people can be off if Cupid is on vacation.

[DextroShade]

This is projection, only women like guys who don't like them. Men prefer to be desired.

[Anonymous]

The irony of this question coming from a woman is rich.

[Anonymous]

Men don't know what they got till its gone.

[DreamLife7]

He never liked u he's just bored

[Kingofkings1992]

Only women do this