Long story short... we were dating for 8 months till he dumped me, because I was jealous (I had reasons). He texted with another coworker and didn't even try to understand my reasons.
We work together, but recently I got fired.
He was shocked and tried telling the manager to get me back to work (I didn't want to).
Then started acting as if we got back together. Called me, looked concerned, was curious about whom I went on vacation, touched me. Anyway... that was a week ago.
On Saturday last week I messaged him asking why he told another coworker that I'm going to visit them to the workplace (we did have an agreement that I will visit him (not them), but I was waiting for his call... and when he didn't call, I just simply couldn't go)
And he replied "so what?" ... and I told him that I was waiting for a call and when I didn't receive it... I just couldn't go. He said "I thought we agreed that you will come"... and I told him "why didn't you call me? how can I know that it's OK for me to come"... and he replied again "why didn't you call?"... and I said "so what are you expecting me to say "can I come" or what"... and he said "yes, ask" and then I said "so you can tell me "why are you here"? (Because once he said that as a joke and I got upset).
He said "fine"... and I said "what's fine... so I cannot come"... and he replied "listen... I don't want to talk about these things again and again, I'm with my friends now, I don't want to talk bullshit"... and my final words were "then call me, I don't want to be the one to always call you, I feel stupid".
And he hasn't reached out since then... I don't know if he will.
Maybe it's over...
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Yep it's over. You made that conversation/interaction more complicated than it needed to be and he decided he didn't want to deal with that.
I just wanted him to call me... that's all. I felt that since he hasn't, he doesn't give a f...
Okay you wanted it so bad you had to dig in and stomp your feet to have it your way, starting a fight about a non-issue, when you could have just called if the ACTUAL point was to go visit, but that wasn't the point, the point was you wanted it your way or no way and once you dug in you weren't budging.
All this over a little call.
Okay , okay... do you think I can do something about it?
I already told you. Call him and see what's what. Apologize if you find that appropriate, even if it's not taking ownership. "I'm sorry things got here" isn't admitting guilt just expressing that where you are is unfavorable. Show that you actually can compromise instead of indicating to him that he'll have a lifetime of dealing with someone who is going to dig in on the slightest issue
I texted him again and even met him at lunchtime. He said "you are the younger one, you should be calling"
Told you you should call ;)
Okay, but that phrase "you should call, because you are the younger one"? how do you take it?
I'm not sure where your age has any bearing on that.
you are correct, it is over, move on.
Seems like it, but I wonder if it was my fault or his. Do you think I should say something?