Why does my ex keep coming to me for sex?

[Liz224u24]

its been over 5 years since we broke up and we use to hook up often back in the day, but now he is coming back around again its like he never just stays away, i mean i know he's hooked up with other girls over the years but why not call them? or find someone else? I dont always answer him and i have actually ignored him for about 6 months, yet he STILL calls. I just can't figure him out...

[Finchie40]

Because most exes feel they still have a connection and feel their ex partner still has feelings for them , so they try to take advantage of their ex by using them for sex. I had a few ex girlfriends that still wanted to have sex with me even though we weren’t together anymore , they would tell me how much they missed having sex with me and think I will give them another chance , thinking things will go back to the way they were before we broke up. I did sleep with a few of my exes just for sex but my feelings for them weren’t the same , so it was just sex to me

[RolandCuthbert]

I am just going to tell you straight. In my experience, I always would call up old flames for sex and for when I needed a pretty woman on my arm at an event or for an occasion.

And I would do it for as long as I was permitted. I am not saying your ex is the dog that I was. But just warning you.

[Samilynn]

He either has feelings for you and isn't sure how to tell you.

Or

He knows that if he's persistent enough that you will break down and have sex with him.

I know how you feel, my first love from high school (over 20 years ago) still comes back to me. It's sometimes a few years, but he pops up on FB and starts hitting on me. I can't figure it out either. Sometimes he has come around when he knew I was with someone else and there was no chance of him getting any. But no matter what, since we were 16, he's always come back.

[Liz224u24]

i mean i sit back and think, like WHY there is so many other girls out there I know he's getting it from elsewhere but its like a few times a week hell hit me up on my phone, or runs into my brother, im just like you really can't be coming back just for sex like that all the time, i mean COME ON now I've done moved on and been single since we splt, doesn't mean i didn't get my needs satisfied though.

[spartan55]

That's because women can get laid WAY easier than guys can. And they assume (like you are here) that guys can get laid just as easily. Uh no...

[justaskit24]

@spartan55 you’re right, it’s really hard for us to pull women man so if a woman has shown interest in the past we assume she will again, eventually

[spartan55]

@justaskit24
Once you've had it there is a much greater chance you can have it again then starting from scratch.

[midnightmoon05]

Why do you need to figure him out? Block him unless you like the attention.
Why would he not call? Not just you but anyone who would say yes once to get free sex he got it before and he will be back.
my ex didn’t get sex…and has a woman… still called … so I blocked him.
I am not going to waste my time on an ex. Unless I have no life.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

Is it because his cousin is unavailable?

[Fireguy17]

the problem is not him, it is you.
You are the one allowing him to come back into your life.
He knows that you are an easy mark and can get laid and move on whenever he is in the mood and do that over and over again.
So, until you just say no and cut off all ties to him and move on, this behavior pattern will continue. to repeat it's self over and over again.

[Joshydavid25]

Either he still has feelings for you or you gave it to him so good, that he has a hard time forgetting about you.. Or maybe a mixture of both..

[XXTruthfulOgrexx]

Easy free sex with very little effort and no commitment?

How are you even questioning his reasoning?

[Todd9612]

You are obviously good at what you do, what else would it be?

[spartan55]

Can't figure him out? Lol... really? It's about as simple as it gets. He keeps coming back for sex because you are easy.

[TheGuyWhoKnowsStuff]

Because he thinks you'll be an easy lay and will eventually given in and put out since you've already slept with him in the past. He's disrespecting you, nothing more.

[DreamLife7]

Because he knows no one else wants you therefore you're always available. He knows your self esteem is low

[Liz224u24]

umm thats not true about other people not wanting me. So you could give a little better feedback unless your some miserable girl on here.

[DreamLife7]

If other people wanted you, you wouldn't be allowing open lines of communication with an ex. Unfortunately, that's how he views you, too. I'm fine you're the one undesirable, used, abused and replaced.

[Avicenna]

Because he thinks he'll be able to have sex with you if he's persistent

[Liz224u24]

but why not try with someone else? because i haven't answered him in months, i mean there is plenty of women he's around all the time.

[spartan55]

Why do women always assume guys can just get laid by snapping their fingers?

[Avicenna]

Presumably it's because you've had sex with him in the past

[Drumlin2001]

You do t always answer? So you do sometimes? And hookup still? He'll keep doing it as long as he keeps getting what he wants

[Nice222]

Because it’s free sex with no commitment. That’s the best kinda sex.

[theREELZNEEZZ]

He doesn't have any better casual sex options.

[AviatorTom]

Maybe because you let him?

[Anonymous]

He must think you are easy.

[Liz224u24]

how am i easy if i have ignored him for half a year. ?

[exitseven]

Screen his calls and don't call him back

[KittygosMeoWW]

Because you make it easy for them.

[KittygosMeoWW]

@KızlarÖpüldünüz sure

[KızlarÖpüldünüz]

why then

[RedInnocent68]

You da bomb! Work that 🍯😸!

[jahaims]

Because he likes sex duh

[bobby_bush_eater]

Because he can...

[Squatting_Slav]

He sees you as a bootycall

[Anonymous]

Maybe he still like your pussy