Guys, would you be uncomfortable if a female friend you were attracted to asked to stay in your apartment for a few days?

[Bethany22]

Say it was due to a crisis situation happening at her current apartment that left her unable to live in her apartment for a while. Would you be over the moon at the idea of her staying a few nights at your place (such as on the couch or on the floor), or would you have hesitations?

[clampfan101]

If my friend needs me I’m going to try to help her. If I had my own apartment I’d offer to take the couch or buy her a sleeping bag if she doesn’t have one.

I’m sure I’d have at least some complicated feelings about it, but this isn’t just doing her a little favor. If no one else will help her I need to suck it up and try to do it myself.

[Phoenix98]

It wouldn't be much of an issue I have pretty good self control and I'm not one to cross boundaries like that make people uncomfortable. But I would have to know her in some capacity because there's no way I'd let a stranger even an attractive one stay in my house especially when I'm gone 8 hours a day.

[msc545]

A girl I knew once asked to stay with me for a week while her place was painted. I knew her from school, and wanted to date her, but she seemed uninterested. I had two spare bedroms at the time, and made up a bed for her.

I knew her from school, and wanted to date her, but she seemed uninterested, so I thought that nothing had changed. I was wrong. That very first night she came into my room and climbed in my bad, saying her feet were cold. I did my best to warm them, and before long she was doing her best to warm ME up. It didn't take long at all. We had sex most of the night and into the morning, then went fr breakfast, cmae back, and had more sex. It was great and it lasted all week. After , we kept it up all through that college year.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

I had that happen to me once but I offered her my bed and slept on the couch. It ended up working to something very sexual very quickly though (consensually). Things can get very intimate doing things like watching movies together snuggling next to each other in a man's home.

I always tried to be a gentleman careful not to cross any boundaries but I did have a tendency to "explore" where they were when a woman was in my home. I can't speak on your friend's behalf. He might be more disciplined than me.

I wasn't at all uncomfortable though. Not delighted either. I didn't expect anything to happen. Actually I was surprised that she reciprocated my physical gestures, like kissing and touching me back since I thought she only thought of me as a friend and just needed a place to stay for a week.

[AManOnTheWeb]

It would really depend on the specifics. I imagine part of me would be wondering if her choosing to use my house/apartment (as opposed to one of her girlfriend's places) as the "emergency shelter" was her way of trying to get closer to me and that maybe she was interested in being more than friends. Women can be funny about not wanting to come off as too aggressive, so they'll do things to encourage you to make a move on them. It can lead to mixed signals and ambiguity.

I'd encourage you to be open, honest and clear in your communication.

[RammyM]

Assuming I know her well, a friend in need should take precedent over whatever may or may not have floating inside your head. Especially if the situation is so dire that they must rely on you for a sense of stability, the power dynamic already shift. even lose the stability of a safe place to sleep, then it's ESPECIALLY not the time or place for those kinds of feelings to be appropriate, don't even express it or acknowledge it - no you can't, without crossing another level to be crashed? verbally that is expressed or even discussed. If I really cared about her, then I should have no issue putting my friend's needs over my own selfish ones.

[Billlewis]

No, not all. In fact, if two specific elements were present during her stay, it would unquestionably be a once in a decade event for me.

-- if I was also staying there at the time, in a different room, of course.

-- if her boyfriend or established friends with benefits came over to spend a long night of intimacy with her, and their moans, grunts, shrieks and squeals reverberated through the hall as he brutishly quenched his ravenous lust on her several times before dawn.

[aceleon]

i would super bluntly tell her that if she would stay i would try tohave sex with her one way or another, check her out whenever i like and slipp up some underhand touches hoping she won't realize, won't mind or would reciprocate.

if she still wants to stay this means she gives me a green light (since theother option would be her having no one else to go and this is kinda not realistic)

[MiddleAgedClimbee]

I don't think this would be a problem. As an adult, I think I'm able to control myself. If I were a single guy, maybe I would have a little bit of hope that it might turn into something more than a friendship, if I was attracted to her. My wife and I have hosted two of our friends in the past due to an apartment flood and a fire. Both were guys, and I didn't sense anyone being uncomfortable with the situation.

[DJB72]

I think the word you're looking for is "terrified".

The girl I was sweet on 28 years ago came to stay on holiday a few times and I went to stay with her as well. Of course I was too dumb to realise we both felt the same way at the time. It only came out about two years later!

[MarkDown]

I would let her have the bed while I took the couch, but I wouldn't find it uncomfortable for me. I would hope that I wouldn't make it uncomfortable for her if she wasn't interested in me. I mean not to be out of line, but how would a girl feel in that situation if they were say wearing a night gown or PJ outfit before bed, watching TV with their host in the main living room and noticed he couldn't control getting a "woody" just being around her?

[ImHere22]

If I were single and she asked if she could stay over? Yea of course I would let her stay! And no, it wouldn’t make me nervous or uncomfortable.
lol don’t make her sleep on the floor though, like that’s not cool

[MrOracle]

I've been in that situation a couple of times. It was never a problem to let my friends stay over for a few days.

[JacobJordan]

Don't have female friends because I respect my wife. That being said if I did and I was single then not a problem. If I did and I was in a relationship sorry she's on her own

[FunkyMonkee]

Perfectly fine with me, as long as I had the room for her. Who knows? Maybe that'd actually put us together.

[matchrestore]

No. I can be attracted to someone without acting on it.

[TooHot2Care]

There is a very. VERY short list of people I’d let stay at my apartment for a few days.

if she’s not on that list, then no.

[stratford]

I'd probably be giddy at the thought and trying to think of was to casually suggest we might as well both sleep in the bed...

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

If I was single at the time, it would be no problem.

[nawtee_me]

I would be all for it. Helping someone out and getting the chance to spend time with her as well.

[zagor]

I would be OK with it, if she was an honest person.

[Danisgivingit]

Nope. As long as she knew what she was asking

[Charliefretz329]

Only in the nether regions…


But I am of course a hopeless gentleman…

[rebeliouse]

i would sleep on the floor and she would get my bed unless u agreed to share it

[MMguy]

I'm not sure why anyone would answer Yes to this based on how the question is phrased.

[BoopBoopBeep]

If we're both single, sure.

[Fireguy17]

no, it would be called being a good friend.

[exitseven]

I wou;d do it oif i was not married.

[loveslongnails]

I'd welcome any friend who needed help.

[KrakenAttackin]

A great chance to bust a move.

[Nifrayu]

No. I would be comfortable with that.

[shortster]

Depends on how well I knew her.

[Amur8711]

I would be ecstatic, but also very nervous!

[NathanDavis]

nope

[Anonymous]

No, we're not going to be in the same room

[Thatguy2394]

Not attracted to my friends in that way

[Anonymous]

Nope not at all.

[Zestyassmf1997]

Maybe.

[Pterodon]

I wouldn’t mind