Guys, would you have a problem with your girlfriend having a male roommate?

[naturally]

If so why?

Also girls, would you mind your boyfriend having a female roommate?

I wouldn't mind.

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Would it change your opinion if her room mate was smokin' hot (and not gay)

[aly-marie]

It does depend on how long we've been together, because after a while you just know whether you can trust them or not. And it would depend on how long they've known the roommate, if it was an old friend I'd be less worried.. and if I knew the roommate better, that would help a lot too. It would help if the roommate was dating someone too. It would help if I didn't think they were that hot, honestly.

Just thinking about it, there's so many different aspects to it. My first reaction was "Yes, I'd absolutely have a problem with it!" but if I really cared about the guy, I wouldn't let that be a deal breaker. I'd probably just give it some time and see how I feel about it after a while.

[Whynothaha]

So you won't blindy trust your partner? Jokes on you when all your partners figure out you can't trust them, and they just dump you and move on

[Cailleach]

Not at all, and not because I trust them. I don't really trust anyone. It's just that if he/she cheats with the roomate, I wouldn't really care. I'd break up with them and get over it.

[findingdreamland]

It doesn't sound me a very good idea. Everything is possible. I dont want to make anyone insecure inc. my bf and me.

[qwert1234]

Yes.
Would she want me to get a smokin hot girl as a roommate?
I don't think so.

It's not just about trust - it's about proximity.
They are roommates - good chances they would be friends.
Relationships aren't perfect - what if you two fought? Who will she be talking to? Guess what - a huge chance goes to her new male roommate.
I'm not saying she's going to cheat immediately - but once people starts to get close, there is a chance they might get too close.

And I don't want to add that chance to the equation.

[Miristheiss]

I find it inappropriate and I’d not be in a relationship like that. It’s just TOO close, familiar and too much time with a man. If I were with a lady who moved in with a guy while we are together in a relationship I’d break up and move on completely the moment they moved in together.

[martyfellow]

I would have a big problem with it, gay or not. Hey, half the women are sleeping with gay men these days, it's tendy. Sometimes I think a lot of the gays are faking it because they know it's easier for a 'gay' guy to geta g girl into bed... If she want a male roommate, what about me?

[naturally]

It's not that she 'wants' a male roommate he's just the 1st person that answered the ad in the paper and could afford the rent and now they're friends and she's not gonna kick him out.

Would you not trust your girlfriend to turn down any advances the roommate may make?

[martyfellow]

No of course not. Too much tempation too close.

[naturally]

ha well it will be your ass on the curb when she finds out you don't trust her, so this will never be a problem for your gf

[Distant]

It all depends on the nature of the roommate's relationship with my girlfriend. If I didn't see them flirting in any way and saw that it was strictly platonic, I wouldn't have a problem. It would also depend on my girlfriend's personality. The type of girl I would go for would never even think of cheating so I don't see why her roommate would even be an issue.

~Distant

[Whynothaha]

What is the point of this discussion? I only see you arguing with men who won't trust, using the same argument. It is their opinion, but even seems like you want to change their mind.

Go straight to the point with this post, people can naturally cheat within a relationship if requirements are met. People can't be forced to trust their partner, the people commenting here that they would feel uncomfortable and doesn't trust their partners won't change their mind with your opinions, only with their life experience.

Answering to your question, yes, I could feel uncomfortable, because is not a matter of trust, even for long time relationships we are all humans and we all can feel new conection with people, everything can happen. What I would do is request for a clear talk.

If there are feelings for the roommate, ok, please just don't hide it from me and let's just talk, thungs can be solved.

[JewFroJoey]

I'd have a big time problem with it. I wouldn't care if he was gay or whatever. I would never trust any guy around her THAT much.

[naturally]

So you wouldn't 'allow' (not that she needs your permission) her to be around her best guy friend whom she grew up with, a male she has class with everyday, her sexy trainer with whom she works out with 3 times a week?

wow seems like the only girlfriend that could satisfy this request of yours is hermit crab and I'm sure even she would be offended

[JewFroJoey]

There's a difference between being around and living with. Living with another guy would undermine our relationship way too much. I've never had a girlfriend before that wanted to live with another guy before anyway. I don't imagine it will ever be something I'll have to worry about.

[naturally]

It would undermine it for you not for her. It's insecurity on your part.

[JewFroJoey]

If my girlfriend didn't want me to live with another girl, I wouldn't. It's not because I wouldn't have her "permission" or anything like that. I would just understand that she doesn't want it and it would hurt her too much.

[naturally]

It wouldn't hurt her and it doesn't hurt you, it's pure jealousy and insecurity

[JewFroJoey]

Glad to know you understand my feelings better than I do.

[naturally]

Well explain how a male splitting the rent would "hurt" you

[JewFroJoey]

There's no point. You asked a question hoping for a certain answer and then you argued with every answer that you didn't want to get.

[naturally]

Exactly, there is no way you could defend that argument.

[rawrush]

i would not let it happen if she respect me or the relationship and honestly i would want to kick his ass i just ran into problem she told me that her friend wanted to move in with them i was hell no , honestly if she went be-hide me back and did it anyways i would dump her.

[Anonymous]

I would have a problem with it to be honest. It wouldn't matter what the other guy looked like it is the fact I think the girl is hot so I assume the roommate does also and has ulterior motives.

[naturally]

But do you not trust your girlfriend to turn down any advances the roommate may make?

I think a man would be insecure about himself if he had a problem with this.

[Opinion Owner]

No I don't trust her 100%

I've been friends with women that have cheated and my old roommate slept with two married women so I keep my expectations realistic. You can call it insecurity if you want but I call it security and being cautious when it comes to being judgmental on women.

[naturally]

alright then, but I wouldn't go telling your girlfriend to kick her roommate's ass to the curb because once she finds out you don't trust her it'll be your ass on the curb.

[snowboarder720]

i agree with distant. it really depends on the dude. I'd feel uncomfortable not living with her and some random guy is. I'd wanna be there ALOT.

[Swampwater]

depends how long we have been together/ how much trust there is.

is her roomate an android or a reptile in a human suit?

[shanemomo38]

My roommate is a girl. She's a friend from high school. We don't have a history together. She has a boyfriend and I give them space.