Isn’t it disrespectful as fuck for a guy to say “we can check in every once and awhile”?

[Anonymous]

I think it hurts very much and makes me feel less than

who tf says that just let me go and wish me luck

[GallopAcrossEurope]

Uh, is it disrespectful to check in on someone we had a relationship with to see if they are doing alright? I assume you two broke up. That's like the complete opposite of how you are interpreting it, it means they do respect you if they don't want to just never talk to you ever again. You need to revisit the way you look at social interactions if you take that as a deliberate insult.

[Asker]

I’m sorry it was a rejection

[GallopAcrossEurope]

He sees you as a friend then! That isn't bad at all. I think you are just sad it didn't work out the way you think it should have. Don't worry, he still respects you and is just trying to let you know that he still wants to hang around with you.

[Asker]

We went on a date and he ghosted me… after several attempts to reach out he calls and gives me closure

He says he doesn’t want to invest time if we weren’t going to eventually have sx and then he said other stuff like has other priorities etc he said he hopes I find a man that can love me the way I need/want

I just feel like that comment is putting a carrot above my head … I didn’t like it

[GallopAcrossEurope]

Thank you for the clarification, I definitely misunderstood the situation you were in. You're definitely right to feel the way you do rn, what he essentially said was that sex is his priority and that if you weren't going to give it to him, then you don't mean anything to him and you should go find someone else.

Which is just a certified asshole moment from him, considering he was also too afraid to admit that was his opinion and just decided to ghost you.

[Asker]

It wasn’t like that he seemed genuine but I think he just tried to sabotage the date bc he didn’t like me ig

Because he knew since day one I said no sex and I’m waiting unmarried (possibly)

[Anonymous]

Men think they are more important than what they actually are.

[Asker]

My feelings were hurt but you’re right… big ego to match his big head