Why do grown men go after underaged girls so often?

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I’ve never talked to a woman who hasn’t deal with this when they were underage

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

It's much easier to understand this in context, which is that our modern world and modern morals are very, VERY new, because our circumstances have changed massively post-WWII, at least in Western countries.

For ALL of human history prior to the 1950s, it was extremely difficult, and often impossible, for one person - especially a female - to live life alone. Most people didn't have anything like health insurance, and there was no "welfare" or public assistance - churches largely filled that role - and even in the inter-war period (the 1920s and 30s), it was far from unheard of for people in the US to starve to death or die out in the elements in bad weather - or even inside their poorly-built homes. Life was tough, and one person alone had much less chance of surviving. As such, the marriage rate was very, very high.

Another big difference is that the concept of adolescence - a period of time between childhood and adulthood - didn't even exist. Boys were largely considered to be men by age 16, and girls were considered to be women by 14 or 15. It wasn't unusual or even remarkable for girls to marry at 14 or 15, and in one famous, notable example, rocker Jerry Lee Lewis married his 13-year-old cousin - and this in the 1950s! Girls being married and having kids at 15 and 16 was common, and it wasn't unusual for an "older man" in his 20s, who'd lost his first wife to illness, an accident, or childbirth, to choose a new wife, and 14-15 year old "women" were considered perfectly suitable choices by most of society. Again, there was no concept of adolescence - these girls were considered to be women, perfectly capable of making adult choices.

The massive technological advancements, most created or accelerated by WWII, and then the Cold War that followed it, changed society in huge ways, and this has changed the way we look at teens - as adolescents instead of as adults - and Feminism further pushed to discourage male-female relationships in every way possible, and encouraging people to consider teen girls to be little children. At your age, you've never known anything else, but if you look at all of human history, you'll quickly see that it's the modern view that's unusual and goes against history.

Of course, you also need to remember that casual sex was FAR more rare. People GOT MARRIED, and while they obviously then had sex, marriage was largely "'til death do us part" and not the "until I get bored" that it so often is today.

TheSpider · Accepted Answer

It didn't used to be like that. We live in a satanic age.

petitedollbabee · Accepted Answer

The same reason why pedos go after underage people in general.. they’re messed up in the head. It’s not a male-only issue.

Apple1996 · Accepted Answer

a lot of men have been brainwashed by porn and media to be pedophiles

WindAtMyBack · Answer

Humans have created a divergence. The age of sexual maturity in girls has gotten lower and lower. Yet at the same time the age of social and psychological maturity has gotten older and older. So they are going in opposite directions. This affects a lot more than sexual attraction.

So we have this artificial and very recent idea of maturity. Kids are not raised in the same way they used to be. Just look at education. In the past there was no formal education at all. Then kids went to school to learn their 3 Rs, which was basically mid-elementary school level. Then they went to middle school and high school. Then they went to college. Now it's becoming more and more common to get advanced degrees. All that before they truly enter the adult world.

Kids today live with, and are supported by their parents into their mid to late 20s. That's at least 15 older than it was in the not too distant past. It's gotten noticeably older just in my lifetime.

But biology has gone in the exact opposite direction. So we have this totally unnatural disconnect between biology and social norms. Society can keep increasing the age of social maturity all they want. But that is not going to change the completely natural biology that has been part of the human race for millions of years.

NamerOfStars · Answer

Because the sources of female sexual attractiveness are youth, healthy, and fertility, and the idea of "age of consent" is an entirely artificial human construction.

To make things clear, it's a human construction that I vehemently agree with and stand in support of, but natural selection cares about results, not ethics, and instinct cares about natural selection. In a monogamous partnership, a longer reproductive window means more kids, and healthier ones.

In short, they go after underaged girls because they're NOT perverts.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

A 15 or 16 year old girl can be very attractive physically, and very seductive, and it would be stupid to deny that fact, BUT. . .

but a 22 year old guy and a 16 year old girl are light years apart in maturity and interests. And those girls really aren't capable of giving a mature consent to a physical relationship AND it's illegal. But some people don't care about all that, e. g., Epstein and anybody on his list.

Anonymous · Answer

I think it’s based on biology. The age of 18 is a social construct, but biologically women who are younger are usually seen as more fertile. That age where they’re more attractive, have a better chance of having a healthy pregnancy, etc. A lot of women see this as someone who’s a pedophile but that’s cause we’ve been conditioned to accept that age by law. I’m not advocating for it, especially girls who are maybe 10-12, but in other countries the legal age is 16, maybe even lower. When you look at cultures you have things like quinceaneras, sweet 16, etc. Those big events in a girl’s life were meant to signify the coming of age, purity, that she was a woman who was ready for marriage. I’ve seen a number of girls who I thought were cute, I thought they were older but turned out they were 15, 16 years old. Does that make me a pedo? I don’t think so. I wasn’t out intentionally looking for little girls. My assumption was they were older.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Unsure. I was the opposite. From the time I was 14 I only dated women over 18, so I guess in some respect those girls went after an underage guy, at least till I turned 18 myself (California age of consent is a strict 18, no close in age exceptions).

Drew-1990 · Answer

I personally would never go for an underage girl for various reasons. But a big part of it is we're conditioned to look at younger girls. Young girls are thrown at us all the time, TV or online. They even when you disagree with it, you catch yourself checking out younger girls that you shouldn't be looking at. Some guys have good self-control and others do not.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

When I was age 16, I was at a doctor's appointment and these two girls at least age 26, were talking among themselves about me and said, It looks like we have some new meat in town, now ask yourself is that a way for perverted grown ass women to talk about a teenage guy so figure how I feel so yes it happens both ways for females and males?

Anonymous · Answer

12-18 will be for fertility. younger than that is just mental illness, perversion

RavVid · Answer

What are you calling underage? I would have assumed under age of consent but with the juvenilization of young adults it could be 25 now. Just want to clarify rather then dispute.

aceleon · Answer

-they are young and limber -they have more possiblity of being pure and untouched

Drumlin2001 · Answer

There are bad people out there. In same way as women seduce underage boys.

verylovelyguy · Answer

there's a something attractive about that youth and innocence

OtterMan68 · Answer

conquest maybe creeps: definitely.

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

Creeps

riverrat3 · Answer

When i was a teen i wanted older women

jahaims · Answer

You mean a pedophile

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