Ex situationship with a girlfriend asking for my opinion?

[Anonymous]

We were “on and off” for about 2 years. In the last year we both got into a relationship with different people. Lately, he’s been messaging a lot about random things like “opinions on shoes to buy” or even asking for my “words of wisdom” before a job interview. He said he’d see me in a few months time (we live a couple hours away from each other). Weird? or Is it normal for a guy to message his ex situationship when he should be asking his girlfriend instead? Or?

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm that does seem a bit weird if he's still talking to you regularly when he's in a new relationship now. Obviously I don't know all the details, but some possibilities:

- He may still have lingering feelings and isn't fully over your situationship yet, even if he's with someone new. Keeping in touch prevents fully letting go.

- He could be insecure about his new relationship and enjoys the ego boost of your attention/responses when he messages. Not really fair to his current girl.

- Maybe he's just still used to coming to you for things since you were so close for so long, but it's disrespectful to his new partner.

If it were me in your shoes, I'd tell him you're uncomfortable continuing to chat so frequently since you both moved on. Suggest he lean on his girlfriend now for advice/opinions instead of an ex. You don't want drama from her either if she finds out.

It's nice he values your opinion, but he needs to fully commit to his new relationship. I'd step back and set some boundaries for now. Don't want him unintentionally disrespecting his new girl if there are still feelings leftover for you. Hope this helps - let me know if you need any other thoughts!

[spartan55]

Or what? He's just keeping warm in case his new Ho doesn't work out. Don't do stupid situationships... they never work.

[laly520]

cut ties
this is big time waste