So a couple of weeks ago I asked my baby father if he could watch our daughter?

[Anonymous]

He said no. This was for me to have a night out on the 10th of Feb. And he said he had plans but I think it was a lie. He then said to me I never told him what I was doing and why would I leave a 7 month old without me at night. We’re not together. Is this controlling? Because the last time I asked him to take her for a few hours to go out for a meal he questioned me too. Asking me who I’m going out with if it’s a male or female I’m going out with. Then saying he thought we were going to spend time together. Is he jealous being controlling what is it. Cuz I’m confused why he’s acting like this.

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+1 y

He is involved in our daughter life. He pays child support. And sees his daughter.

[Anonymous]

It's understandable that you're feeling confused about your baby father's behavior. His reluctance to watch your daughter and his questioning of your plans could be a sign of control or possessiveness, especially if you're not together anymore. It's important to communicate openly with him about your feelings and needs, and establish clear boundaries regarding co-parenting responsibilities. If his behavior continues to make you uncomfortable, it might be helpful to seek support from a trusted friend, family member, or counselor.

[Asker]

He does see his daughter regularly and sends me money. But whenever I want to go out like a night out or a meal he starts questioning me.

[Opinion Owner]

It's positive that he's actively involved in seeing his daughter and providing financial support. However, his questioning of your plans when you want to go out could still indicate some control or possessiveness. It's essential to have a conversation with him about boundaries and mutual respect in co-parenting. Reiterate that while you appreciate his involvement in your daughter's life, you also need space to socialize and take care of yourself. Encourage open communication to address any concerns or misunderstandings he may have about your intentions when you go out. Setting clear expectations and boundaries can help improve the co-parenting dynamic.

[236color]

I'm sure "A night out," to him means you're out with/looking for another man. Maybe he just jealous. It's stupid, you're not together, but some guys can't deal with their ex moving on.

Birth control works if you use it.

[kylee2437]

Sounds like it’s being nosy - but girl get a baby sitter. Stop allowing your baby father to be able to guess at your business

[kylee2437]

He’s being*

[Asker]

I don’t trust random people with my child

[kylee2437]

I never said random people. Reach out to other people/ sources close to you instead of relying on him. He proved he’s unreliable when it comes to maturity

[Asker]

True. Thanks x

[Nikki1989]

Remove this guy from your life as much as possible. He is only dragging you down.

[OlderAndWiser]

Is there a court order which gives him visitation rights and requires him to pay child support?

[Asker]

There’s no court order. As we coparent. And he send me money for our daughter and sees her regularly

[OlderAndWiser]

Does he pay child support voluntarily or because of a court order?

[Asker]

He pays it voluntarily

[OlderAndWiser]

So there is no court order. How much does he pay per month?

[Asker]

£500 per month

[OlderAndWiser]

I would offer some legal advice but I practice in the US and not the UK and I don't know the laws there.

[DizzyDesii]

He cockblocking and still wants you