Guys, Men helping - is it about being a hero?

[Anonymous]

what do you get out of doing so much problem fixing? What’s in it for you?
what motivates you to put in so much time to help one person?
I read stuff about guys wanting to be heroes - but that sounded a bit cheesy to me

But this guy friend of mine (who I really like) continues to be helpful with literally everything. To the point where I have been joking with him that there isn’t anything he can’t do.

i guess it’s one of those often quoted scenarios where guys like to fix things.
He spends a lot of time thinking up useful solutions (DIY things), actually building stuff, sourcing the right materials for repairs, planning projects, helping to move heavy stuff etc

if I add up the hours he spends to do these things for me - it’s quite a lot. A serious amount of hours over the last while.
I make sure he knows that all this is appreciated and valued (which honestly it has been)
This is a follow up to a previous question (I hope that is ok, don’t want to duplicate stuff) - but can’t get this out of my mind, so it made me think more about the underlying motivations and how helping/ fixing issues makes guys feel. - also in an attempt to come up with the appropriate thanks- so it doesn’t look like I am trying to take advantage of his help.

thanks for listening

[Anonymous]

For one I think it’s in our nature. Maybe part of it is socially constructed as a boy when you’re growing up. Men tend to want to fix things. We see a problem we want to fix it or make it better. That’s why we have a lot of things we have today like cars, buildings, indoor plumbing, etc. Women naturally want to deal w things that involve people, like nursing, caregivers, etc. I don’t think it’s so much wanting to feel like a hero. Men get satisfaction out of being needed. If he doesn’t feel needed he feels no reason to be around. Just the same as women have a need to be needed in certain things they do. That’s why I always feel if you want a solution to a problem, looking for a fix to an issue, go to your man or a man to help w it. If pure looking to just vent, talk about your day then go to your female friends. Men aren’t women, we’re going to try to offer a solution even if you just want us to listen.

[Anonymous]

But I do know one thing though
bitches they come they go,
Saturday through Sunday, Monday.
Monday through Sunday yo.
Maybe I'll love you one-day maybe we'll someday grow.
Till then just sit your drunk ass on that fucking runway hoe.

Cause I can't be your superman,
can't be your superman,
Can't be your superman,
can't be your superman.
I can't be your superman,
can't be your superman,
can't be your superman,
your superman, your superman.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/8kYkciD9VjU

[andreasderjuengere]

To me it has nothing to do with "hero- thinking".
I just enjoy to solve 'problems' successfully.
It's also a part of my male self-understanding.
Not saying that women don't have the same potential.
Apparently, I'm from a different century... when such behaviour was expected from men - somehow.
But there's nothing wrong with being useful, or helpful :)

[genericname85]

quite simply: looking at a problem is annoying. i know women can spend years crying about a problem without ever fixing it. men hate that shit. they want shit done and solved.