Why did my coworker ask me when am I gonna get married?

[Anonymous]

Last month with Valentine’s Day he started asking me if I was seeing anyone and what he got me for vday. I don’t talk about my personal life a lot at work, plus I’ve only started seeing some since November so it’s still a new relationship. Anyways I told him this and how we’re taking things slowly, and now randomly he asked when I’m getting married and what I’m waiting on. I’ve given him no indication my relationship is serious enough for that or that I want to right now. He’s married himself so I’m not sure why he’s worried about me

[DoggyDude]

It could be just a polite way to bond with you at work (e. g. might be professional banter to keep the work situation lite and less about the stress of the job).

I know that some people think all girls want to get married (and think if they don't admit it their just pretending) and its their main desire (which shows how some people don't think or listen). Also people who are married seem to want to get more people into the same club as them (so to speak) my ex-gf used to describe it as 'when in hell, its nice to have company' though she was always a cynic.

I don't think he's worried about you though, I more think he expects he's mirroring your feelings (he's presuming) and hoping to get you to maybe open up and talk about something important to you to get to know you better.

I'd just let him know, kindly, that's not his business, or just blank him altogether with such questions. I know somtimes its expected to ask about such things socially, because a certain majority want to speak about their partners and future plans together.

[236color]

Well when I was engaged, many people, every time I met them would ask "When are you going to get married?" I could tell them 65 times and when I saw them again, same question. The weird part is, at the wedding, in the reception line, you're asked, "When are you going to have kids?" I was so shocked, I had no idea what to say. I have since thought of a snappy answer that I give to you, "Make a little room on the floor and we'll get started." That will shut them up.

[spartan55]

He's not worried, he's just being a rude nosey ass. Tell him to go mind someone else's business.

[In_Trance]

Because he wanted to know when you're gonna get married

[Anonymous]

Because he wants to marry you.

[Asker]

That doesn’t make any sense if he’s married

[Opinion Owner]

Some people have multiple wives

[laly520]

so nosey