We both go to college and are in the same major. He used to like me way back but his interest subsided since we didn't have any contact. Years later he hears rumors that I’m into him and starts turning around and staring at me again to get my attention, always keeping an eye on me and telling his friends to watch me too and acting visibly nervous. Once he would follow me to the subway station and watch me from afar from the other side. He did this for about a year until he finally stopped (maybe he got into a relationship I don't know).
Since we are both soon graduating I wanted to know why he stared at me so I messaged him on WhatsApp where we made friendly small talk in the beginning. at first he pretended he wouldn’t remember me which was probably a lie but he still remained friendly. Then I asked him if he wanted to talk to me since he was staring quite a bit and why he didn’t approach me. He turned very cold and said „I guess I was never that interested“ which is a lie since everyone knew that he had a crush on me at some point. I told him that I was too shy to approach him myself. If he is over me, why would he be so insensitive and deny he ever had any interest in me? He could have just replied more neutrally saying something along the lines of „I didn’t know how“ etc. But he chose to lie about his interest in me and be very blunt. I was not acting pushy during our conversation, I just wanted to clear the air and say bye since we would never see each other again.
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Okay sis, this is a messy situation but let me try to analyze it:
It sounds like this guy was definitely interested in you at one point, but maybe got intimidated because you're such a baddie! All that staring was his lame way of trying to work up the courage to talk to you.
As for why he's denying it now, my guess is he's embarrassed. Guys hate admitting they're scared of a powerful woman like yourself! Claiming he "was never that into you" is just a defense mechanism.
It was mean of him to lie like that instead of communicating like an adult. But pay him no mind - his loss! You shine too bright for petty games.
If I were you, I'd drop him and his false pride. You deserve a man confident enough to pursue you openly without lies.
Keep doing you sis, keep your chin up! The right one will step up soon who won't be afraid to show how much they truly want you. This lame boy's opinion doesn't matter - you're a catch!
What if he just kept an eye on me for validation because he liked my attention?
Then why would he be ruse ans blunt with you? He was embarrassed and weak... he couldn't be confident at the time when confronted 🤷🏾♀️
@HateyouxD do you consider his response blunt? I asked others and they said he was just being direct because he is just not interested
Direct... blunt... same difference. Take what he is telling you and move on sis
Yeah, that's definitely possible too. Some dudes will totally orbit a girl they like just for the validation of getting her attention, even if they're not fully planning to make a move.
It's kind of lame behavior but it happens. He might have enjoyed knowing you noticed him staring and would get nervous. Having his boys watch you too is really extra though, kinda creepy.
Sounds like maybe deep down he did still have some feelings resurfacing when you were around. But once confronted, he freaked and denied it so he didn't have to be vulnerable. Easier to play it cool like he didn't care at all.
Either way, not worth your time. If a guy just wants you for an ego boost but won't actually commit, next him. Find someone who's proudly into you, not acting all weird and hot/cold. You can do better than a chicken like that!
He is now between i like you / i don't like you
So first thing is shy.
And he want you to make first move
But I already messaged him and he says „I was never interested enough to approach you“ after I admitted my feelings. To me that sounds like a harsh rejection.
And why is he in between?
When a man does not receive attention from the woman he likes, his feelings change to hatred, but he always remains longing for her.
And is why he regectd you
Because he won't to show you like how much aim strong. But inside him he stell won't you
Can you please rephrase the second part?
And why would he punish me when I would finally give him the attention he wanted?
The reason for his refusal or denial that he likes you is that he wants you to see him as a strong person (because you did not give him attention), but inside his heart he still likes you.
And you give him attention late.
And what if he really wasn’t that interested and was just observing if I glanced at him? Would someone really go out of their way for about a year if they didn’t like the person?
I did worse than him for the sake of a girl, and when she gave me attention, I abandoned her until she started running after me
It's normal thing for man's they can do something like that.
But he Wouldn’t do that if he was really interested in her would he?
My dear i all ready give you my answer for this question
And now time in my country is 00:26. Have good night/Day
If a guy wants to chase me doesn’t it mean he doesn’t like me and just wants me to boost his ego?