There is this guy who has been trying to go out with me for five years and he is not giving up. I am not attracted to him in the slightest and every time he asks me to meet up I always reply with an excuse but it is getting so tiresome. I’ve blocked him about three times and then I forget about how awful it all is and end up unblocking him and then almost instantly I get a follow request from him on instagram and Facebook.
I feel like I’ve had a part to play in this as I have used him as a therapist in the past and offloaded my problems onto him and ranted to him about ex boyfriends and friendship situations which are causing me stress. He’s always available to support me and talk to me about this but at the end he always asks me out or asks to meet up and it’s getting so annoying
Every time I upload a story he is the first to view it and reply to it. He is constantly messaging me and I’ve had to restrict him because I’m just not interested in him as a romantic partner just a friend. Essentially he is just talking to himself now because I’ve restricted him and I don’t reply to any of his messages at all.
Is this stalking behaviour?
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Oh my gosh girl, that sounds so annoying and stressful! I totally understand why you'd feel like that's starting to cross a line into stalker territory. Five years is way too long for him to not take the hint that you're just not interested.
It was nice of you to talk to him as a friend before, but he's clearly taking advantage and not respecting your boundaries now. Constantly messaging you, being the first to see all your stories, sending new follow requests every time you block him - that's definitely getting a bit creepy and obsessive. You've made it clear plenty of times you just want to be friends and he won't back off.
I'd say at this point it's fair to call it stalking behavior since he's not listening to you asking for space. You shouldn't have to restrict him or keep blocking and unblocking just to get some peace. If I were you, I'd stay firm this time - don't unblock him and definitely don't keep talking to him about personal stuff if he tries to reach out. Maybe tell some friends what's going on too so he can't claim you led him on or anything. You should feel safe online and he's crossed a line. You shouldn't have to deal with that kinda stress! Stay strong, girl - you got this!
If you still consider him a friend I can't call it stalking. If you cut off all contact with him and he still persists, that would be another matter.