Why won’t he give me my stuff back after he broke up w me?

[Ih8boys18]

Trust has been broken w him multiple times. I found out something happened when we broke up the first time and he lied to me about when we got back together. When I found him w that girl he stopped sharing his location and don’t respond to me about getting the rest of my stuff. I ended up ft-ing an old ex and posted it on my snap. My recent ex saw that. Blocked me from snap and blocked my number. I reached out to his mom about him giving my stuff back. I even had her tell him that my parents or brother would go get it. But he’s avoiding her now too. Does he just need time to process this? I want this relationship to work. But I don't know that it will. But why don’t think he’s keeping my stuff when he’s the one running away and broke up w me?

[_Maya_]

I'm not sure what you mean when you say you want this relationship to work. Isn't the relationship over if he is an ex? I am not understanding of that part of what you wrote. As far as him not wanting to give stuff back it could be a number of reasons. He may want to avoid awkward contact. Even having a family member pick up your stuff might be awkward for him. He might be trying to hang on to a piece of the relationship and not ready to let it go completely. He might be... as you pointed out... still dealing with things. If this is a fresh breakup he may need some time before he can face reality that it is over and he needs to give your stuff back. Remember that it can be very awkward to see an ex for the first time since breaking up.

[Ih8boys18]

I wanted it to work out every time. And his lack of communication and true feelings couldn’t come through. I would love to work out again, but my trust for his is waaaaaay gone. And I don't know what he could do to fix that

[_Maya_]

Once trust is gone it is almost impossible to fix it. You will always have those nagging thoughts in the back of your head. In my opinion you are better off moving on as hard as that is.

[I_Am_Loner0405]

I lent my ex my Xbox 360 back when we were together. When she cheated and I broke up with her, she never gave it back. I didn’t have a car nor the guts to go and get it back mixed. Plus her dad had it and he kept it in his garage. This happened while I was attending college in her area which was a 3 hour drive from my hometown. Never got it back. At least I have an Xbox one and after that experience I’m never lending any gaming systems to a woman again.

[TommyMountainFigure]

Small claims court is the way to go. He will likely have a court order of letting you collect your belongings within a 7 day period, AND if anything is damaged? The court will look VERY dimly indeed on him.

You hold all the cards at the moment, despite things looking grim.

[boggboss]

What relationship u are not together I feel your want to be with him still is making u see value on his actions where their is none

[spartan55]

You want the relationship to work? Why? It sounds like a nightmare.

[Billlewis]

If he continues to refuse to return your items, call the authorities.

[jahaims]

After all that you want it to work out lol