What does this man want from me?

[Anonymous]

There’s a man who is handsome and has a steady job, as a sports coach. We met on a dating site. He has asked me out; and suggested that we ‘meet halfway and smash.’ He lived 1hr and 35 minutes from me by train. He asked for my Instagram account but hasn’t added me, or used my number. What does he want? I’m autistic and I miss social cues.

[Mr_twoface]

English is not my first language, what is meant by 'meet halfway and smash'? To meet or more? x

[Asker]

I googled smash. It is slang for having casual sex.

[Mr_twoface]

In that case, what he wants is to have sex and then most likely move on. Question is what are you after? Also, given that he hasn't added you on instagram or texted you, is always a red flag for me, cause on a dating site you can claim whomever you want to be and not leaving a trace of himself can mean he is good to be true.

I would suggest for the first time, no matter whom it is and whether or not you are okay to just have casual sex, is to meet someone you meet on a dating site, in person at a local bar or restaurant and go on an actual date with them! Feel the atmosphere, see if you hit it off and then decide what you want to do. Also share social media and let them leave some trace of themselves behind for God forbid something bad would take place.

[Mr_twoface]

Also don't forget to mention to others that you are going to see the person and also have friends join you on the first date (even if they are sitting a bit further away). Its to make you feel comfortable especially like you said, you miss social cues!

Best of wishes to you!

[Anonymous]

He wants to giver you the chance of unplanned pregnancy, increased partner count and STD's.

[spartan55]

He told you what he wants, very clearly.