Am I exaggerating?

[Anonymous]

I talk to a guy. But we don't flirt, we talk normally. It's been almost 10 days since we met. But it doesn't seem to be active for a few days. He read my last message and he doesn't seem to be active since the moment he read it. He's not my boyfriend, we don't flirt. Should I wonder why he's not responding to my message? Am I exaggerating? 🤔

[StarWarGirl]

It is fine. It shows you get attach with person easily, you are being good heart and you are of caring personality.

[Asker]

Ah right.. i like a man immediately. Am i wrong? 🙄

[StarWarGirl]

No it's fine. Liking is ok. Just don't hurry to trust someone. Take your time see everything, analyse everything then only decide you should trust him or not.

[Asker]

Very right. Thank u very much! 🙏 I'm just waiting for his message

[DaveJord]

It's dating, you should expect this and when it happens you move on and forget about it. I mean say after days of not messaging, he all of sudden wants to talk like you're the most important person in the world to him.

Think about that. After day of ignoring you... all of sudden he acts like he cares. I mean what do you think he can come back and say now, that he hasn't said in last few days that would make that alright to you?

I mean unless you just want to hook up with him and a have fling, there is really no point in worrying about it. I would not say you're exaggerating, but honestly, you're stressing too hard over something that is going where you would like it to go. It really should not be that hard, if he was seriously interested.

[Asker]

Ooh i understand what u mean. He's really weird.. he was interested in me at first. Even he used to read my message quickly. But now he's not been active for 7 days and i don't wanna text him "i wonder u"🙄 I can't text him... otherwise he'll think i feel worried about him...

[Asker]

So can he text me suddenly? When he miss me? Will this always happen like this?

[DaveJord]

Well after lots of online dating experiences, I have come to one conclusion about things like this. They only want you around when and where it's convenient for you. If they are not willing to put out the Minium of effort, then they are not worth your time or effort.

Back in the day maybe it was easier to be honest with people or find alternative ways... but in today's world it's just better to say nothing, because everyone is so easily outraged for stupid stuff.

I am actually glad when they do this to me, because that behavior honestly speaks for itself. Its best they do it to you earlier then later after you have actually invested real time an effort. But you are very young, comparatively to me, so I will say to you with all honestly... NO it will not always be this way.

But that has everything to do with you, and where you are looking. But in saying that, I haven't figured it out either for myself.

[DaveJord]

* Convenient for them not you

[Princesspeach1411]

I agree with @StarWarGirl, liking is absolutely fine, but don't hurry and trust him straight away or give him your heart. I'm very much the same when it comes to liking a man immediately and can tell you that girls like us get hurt more easily. Don't put pressure on him or yourself - keep being yourself and go on living your life. If it is meant to be, he will message you. I'm in a similar position (except the guy I like has moved back home abroad and we were flirting), when he left he kept saying we'd make a time to talk, even if it meant he stayed up all night because of the time difference until he went back to work in August. He hasn't text me since he left, and I haven't contacted him either. I'm giving him space and hopefully he will send a message. If not, I will just move on but know I didn't get too emotionally involved to get hurt.