My date asked if “I drive “….. is that a turn off?

[Anonymous]

I get anxiety when driving… I usually Lyft everywhere…. Are men turned off by that.

Do men hate driving girls around

[MrOracle]

I have always driven on dates and trips and the like, so that's not a problem to me. But I probably would not enjoy having to drive her everywhere she ever needed to go - I realize you are using Uber/Lyft, so you aren't relying on him for everything, and I suppose that's fine too. It also depends on where you live. Here in California, everything is spread out, and if you don't drive, living here and doing anything can be tough, and using ride-share and delivery is expensive - though maybe not that much more than owning a car if you don't go out very often.

Anyway, as long as I didn't have to drive her to every store and appointment, it wouldn't bother me if she didn't drive. My girlfriend certainly CAN drive, but she hates to drive and admits to not being very good at it, but she will still occasionally drive herself to my place. I always do the driving when we're together anyway, so that part is fine.

[Finchie40]

If she is honest to me about it , it wouldn’t bother me as long as she doesn’t expect me to be her chauffeur everywhere she needs to go , but if we are dating , I wouldn’t mind picking her up for dates etc..

[Anonymous]

Whether it’s a turn off or not I don’t care lol I also don’t drive due to anxiety and I have no problem being upfront about that. I’ve been with my boyfriend for nearly 3 years and while we have talked about me driving, it’s never ever been an issue. He drives us around, picks me up, drops me off. Before him the only men who cared whether or not I drove either didn’t have transportation of their own or didn’t want to be coming to me all the time, which is fine to each their own. I just went back to being patient for the right guy who would understand and eventually he came.

[AmyHew1tt]

I think it depends. I haven't learned how to drive yet. I think until I get my anxiety/self-doubt under control I'll be a liability on the road, lol. I am self-conscious about it though. That said, it's more common than I thought for people to not start driving regularly until their late twenties, or early thirties.

[Jennifer604]

Depends. Some guys like taking care of a girl by doing stuff like chauffeuring her around like a princess.

[BarryLiverstone]

Ya they like it for a month or two. After a year that becomes a burden

[Asker]

The you don’t love her

[BarryLiverstone]

Incorrect. I would love my child and drive them around until they are 15. Then they can legally start to drive and I’ll help them get a license.

[Asker]

Child and wife are different

[BarryLiverstone]

Yes ty for agreeing with me. A child needs to be driven around.

A wife can drive her own car and she drives her kids like her husband: both are adults.

[spartan55]

I bet you spend a small fortune on transportation.

[spartan55]

It would probably quickly become a major beating.

[Peridot25]

I don’t drive either. It’s why I rather not date.

[Asker]

Well I wanted to do something different

That shouldn’t turn someone off who truly likes you

[Peridot25]

It’s reasonable though 🤷‍♀️

[Booklover_90]

What did you tell him?

[Asker]

I told him I don’t like to

[Booklover_90]

Okay. What was his response to that?

[Asker]

Nothing really

He offered to take me home or pay for my Lyft

[Booklover_90]

If he didn’t say anything, I wouldn’t assume he has a problem with it. Will there be a second date?

[Asker]

Nope lol no second date was mentioned

[BarryLiverstone]

Yes, I would prefer she can drive

[Asker]

Why? Is it that bad

[BarryLiverstone]

Yes. I expect adults can drive. Here in Florida we need to be able to drive to many places

[Asker]

Well people have anxiety… if that’s the case Lyft and other transportation would not exist

[BarryLiverstone]

And if she’s got anxiety just driving it’s likely that anxiety will extend to other things. No thank you. If she has anxiety I would hope she sees a doctor and get passed it.

[BarryLiverstone]

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