On a first or second date, does it matter if the guy or girl drives?

[Soft4u]

If both had their own car.

On a first or second date, does it matter if the guy or girl drives?

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+1 y

Sorry to add this, how about if the guy asked the girl if she'd mind driving, is that cool or is he wrong for asking?

[MrOracle]

I always drive, and nearly all women seem to prefer that. I can't imagine a likely scenario where I'm going to leave her somewhere, but I CAN see a situation where we needed to leave suddenly.

Plus, my car is extremely well maintained, reliable, and I have emergency gear in the trunk. I've been in a lot of women's cars that hadn't had an oil change in 20,000 miles, had bald tires, bad brakes, or the Check Engine light was on. Cars just aren't a high priority for many women, and that's a safety problem.

[JamesRandiDebates]

For me, either I drive my own car or we agree to meet somewhere. I will never allow myself to be in any situation where I can't get up, walk out and drive away at a moment's notice.

[Soft4u]

Really?
You keep that option open all the time or just when the dating is new?

[JamesRandiDebates]

All the time in all instances. Not just dating.

[Soft4u]

There's nothing wrong with it don't think bc I asked I think there's something wrong with doing that.
I've been on lots of dates I'm embarrassed to say I never had my own transportation to leave if I so desired.
I usually go into things with the assumption all will be well, I know not good my brothers tell me all the time don't trust anyone.
Thanks for planting a seed.

[weasley8]

I think it’s sweet when a guy offers to drive. But I may also be biased due to being legally blind and therefore unable to drive myself.

[Soft4u]

Thank you!

[PrincessGrail]

It doesn’t matter

[PrincessGrail]

That’s fine as long as it’s okay with the girl.

[Soft4u]

So the guy asking on a first or second date doesn't matter, would you think it was weird or say yes or no depending on how you felt?

[PrincessGrail]

I’d be surprised. I might ask him why he wanted me to drive. But I wouldn’t automatically say no.

[Soft4u]

Thank you for coming back to reply again, perfect answer!

[PrincessGrail]

You're welcome :-)

[PrincessGrail]

Thanks for MHO :-)

[Logorithim]

I think one should volunteer to drive.

[EmbraceThePain]

I don’t care, but I’d probably drive since I don’t want her thinking I’m lazy, not taking the initiative, or not masculine. I feel like if I tell her if she wants to drive, it’s the same thing as asking her where she wants to go for the date. My belief is that women want a man to lead, plan ahead, and take the initiative.

[jgokgotit]

The first 2 dates of relationships it is probably both of us driving our own vehicles. Just makes sense because it enables either person to leave if needed. Beyond that it does not matter. However, if in doubt I offer to pick her up and respect her response.

[Murakulass]

I think it depends on how good the first date went no? To my mind, if we're hooking up for a second date then trust isn't as much an issue so I'd leave it to the other's prefference.

I might tease that she promise to bring me home if the date goes sour.

I drive for a living so being a passenger is a treat for me!

[weegin]

I don't think there's anything wrong with either way. But for the first dates I would assume both would want to drive themselves there and back, unless one of them didn't have a car.

Personally I hate being driven anywhere by someone else. I don't like my ability to leave being reliant on other people.

[MostPaloney23]

I never suggested picking her up unless she suggests hanging out back at her place. But if that comes up I think it comes off as being more in control if the male drives. Obviously it's different if the guy is younger and not of age to drive or doesn't have a car

[Massageman]

If he asked, it would be good to know the reason for the request and finding the context of the request. I wouldn't drive now because my eye is under treatment with a photosensitizing drug: If I drove in the sun, we'd probably crash since- basically- I'd be blinded.

[worldscolide]

On all of my first dates we met each other at the location we were going to hang out.. Typically walking every where on the first date, second date I volunteered to pick. Her up.

[Soft4u]

There's been a few who do that, not a bad thing to do, in fact it's a good thing to do.
Thank you!

[worldscolide]

Welcome!

[hisokadb]

I didn't know u are so kind , well about that its only me but i would love a girl to drive specialy if she is a good driver it turns me on maybe is just me I don't know

[Soft4u]

My ex said that all the time he always wanted me to drive, a lot of the time I'd drive his car.
I thought he was just saying that bc he was too lazy to drive.

[hisokadb]

Nuuuu and u must br a good driver

[dragonmamma]

In todays day and age, with so ma y women getting date raped or lured into sex trafficking... Unless its someone you already know well... I think the woman is better off to have her own wheels and meet the guy somewhere public.

[Murakulass]

I think date rape was possibly much worse 40 or 50 years ago only it wasen't reported in the news as much as it is today..

[dragonmamma]

Maybe. However I think sex trafficking is much higher. Internet, social media and dating sites made it easier to find potential victims.

40-50 years ago, far more likely that you lived in a small town and dated someone you at least kinda knew, or had mutual social circles.

[datgirl]

I will not let a guy drive me if i dont know him well. So id prefer to drive myself but when/if we get closer id like if he drives cause its hot

[Soft4u]

I should start doing that myself, I go on dates like I've known the guy all my life when some I know nothing about really.
Thanks!

[datgirl]

@kollmllll no thanks.

[datgirl]

@kollmllll bye

[Soft4u]

@kollmlll You're account is inactive, but you already knew that didn't you?

[coolbreeze]

Depends if you feel like driving or not? It's a good way to test and see if the person is a safe driver or reckless driver. Everybody drives different.

[Nik1hil]

The guy drivers..
Not because men are better driver or other bullshit..
But because the Girl spend the 10 times the time getting ready as compared to the guy..
And trust me.. She wants to stay 100% perfect for the date..

[Just_a_human]

What If she's one of those girls that takes 10 minutes or less to get ready

[Nik1hil]

@Just_a_human oh sweety..
She can take 1 hr or 10 hr to get ready..
That is not my point here..
My point is if driving doesn't makes her messed up. Then sure she can drive...

For a guy a girl is 100% perfect..
But that same girl.
If her one thing of face or dress gets messed up she feels like it's all ruined...
And don't want a girl feeling bad about herself before even the date started

[Just_a_human]

So she can drive if she wants to then

[dragonmamma]

What does driving have to do with getting ready? she's not gonna finish getting her makeup on after the guy picks her up.
And driving isn't gonna mess up your hair.

[Nik1hil]

@Just_a_human yes she can drive if she wants to..

[Nik1hil]

@dragonmamma I surrender!..

[BrookieCookie0422]

I think it does. When a guy drives a girl on a date, it’s like subconsciously telling the girl that he can take care of her.

[Djaay]

If I dont know you , I'm not getting in your car , and your not getting in mine either..

[Soft4u]

Okay, I don't think that comes into play tho, they're dating.

[Djaay]

Sure it does...

[Soft4u]

So you'd both meet someplace for the date and take it from there?

[Djaay]

Yes...

[JP_Man]

I am not driving for I sold my car. I dislike driving and I especially dislike taking care of an ever broken thing like a car.

[Soft4u]

Me too!

[rylielovessoftball]

It really doesn't matter to me whether I drive or he drives.

[Bluebot]

shouldn't make a difference in my opinion, but since I enjoy driving Id love to do it :D

[AynonOMouse]

I prefer to drive no matter who I am with. I often don't like how other people drive and I can't relax.

[chloe_2001]

Don't think it matters. I think if there was a specific person who planned the date then they should drive

[Vesta]

I feel the guy should but, it's whatever. i know feminist women on here, would get pissed at me for expressing my opinion, RIGHT FEMINISTS?

[codycccccccccc]

I would probably drive or especially with a first date meet them there in case things went bad

[Hurdleez-Swampede]

On any date, it matters not if the man or woman drives. I'm assuming you mean heterosexual only dating.

[Nayrr]

I wouldn't ask her to drive, I have a race car and it needs to be put to use.

[Jerre]

Makes no difference who drives, whatever is more convenient

[Ben228]

If it's his car let him drive, if her's let her drive. Otherwise talk about it.

[bunny512]

See if she wants to drive she will ask you. But it is a bad thing to ask her to drive on intial dates. Later on its fine

[colin77]

ntin wrong if a man ask his girl to drive once in awhile

[Youryeodongsaeng]

It doesn’t really matter to me...

[Femdomina]

It doesn't matter, whoever owns the car.

[SkipStop]

Whichever is more convenient. There is no rule.

[Casey10101]

na its really up to whoever insists.

[Anonymous]

Not really, maybe whoever has more gas 😊

[Soft4u]

lol that's true.

[chriscdi]

ill drive cause i like driving

[JimboGB]

No, it doesn't "matter".

[pizzalovershouse]

not unless ether 1 is a bad driver

[narnold123]

Doesn’t matter really

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

I don't care. She is not touching my car.

[TallAnon]

I don't really care personally

[Glen68]

I don't think that really matters

[Slim57]

Me and my ex always took turns

[SUMAIREBRAHIM]

I'm like its you're wish if you want to drive

[Hannajenky]

Who cares

[ChefCurry]

she's not driving

[GreenGold1992]

good question

[dog1712]

Of course it doesn't

[dog1712]

I personally would ask the lady what she would prefer