We've known each other for a while now; we are classmates (He's 24 and I am 22). This semester we've gotten closer, we make fun of each other and goof around. I got the feeling that he sometimes gets jealous when I talk to other guys; I have caught him looking at me a couple of times and we always hug each other goodbye. I haven't seen him hug other girls except for this one girl who initiates the hug with him first. But we share long hugs. I sensed that he might be interested in him so one night at a party when we were both pretty drunk I went and told him how I would miss him over the summer break and that he's gonna forget about me. He said 'dude I will not' and 'let's say I send you a weekly message'. I told him 'i love you' he said 'i love you too' but we were both very ddrunk and he for sure was high. Then we kissed each other a couple of times on the cheeks; but when I touched his lips; he pretty rudely said 'dude you didn't have to do that' he has the chance to kiss me but he didn't. When we met the next night; he pretended like nothing happened. He always sends mixed signals. He sometimes is all lovey dovey and then randomly pulls away. He doesn't text much but told me he isn't really a tester but I have seen him text his close friends pretty frequently. My guts said he likes me but at the gala his behavior said otherwise. the last time we met before summer break he just hugged and said 'i'll see you after summer' What does he feel about me and what am I to him?
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What does he feel about me and what am I to him?
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Wow, it does sound like this guy is sending some mixed signals. Here's what I think based on what you described:
- Him getting jealous when you talk to other guys and looking at you a lot points to him being interested in more than a friendship way. Guys don't usually do that for just any girl.
- The long hugs and telling you he'll message you over summer break also makes it seem like he likes your company and wants to stay in touch even while apart.
- However, pulling away abruptly after you opened up about missing him drunk at the party is kinda strange. It's like he got spooked.
- And he turned down kissing you too. So I think he likes you but may not be ready to fully admit it or act on it yet.
- Him pretending nothing happened and not texting much just adds to the confusion. Like he wants to keep you guessing so you don't figure him out fully.
- Some guys can be shy about feelings too and act distant as a defense mechanism.
Overall, I get the sense there's an attraction there but he hasn't fully sorted out his own feelings yet. My advice would be to see if he contacts you during the break - if so, that's progress. And in the fall, try subtly flirting more to see how he responds before confessing your feelings fully. There may be potential there once he figures himself out!
I feel like he likes you, but he's so confused on how to show that he does. He's also probably scared of the outcome and probably overthinking on what to do. "What If she doesn't like me.", "What if something bad happens and I ruin our relationship." That kind of thing. Most of the time the guys who do like you send mixed signals in my opinion. Coming from experience I liked this guy at the time and we would flirt but then out of nowhere, he was like we aren't going anywhere with this and we won't get together. So I started dating this one guy and all of a sudden he's jealous and doesn't want to see me with another guy. Next thing u know, me and him were together. But me and him moved on for the best. But I think you should tell him how you feel. See if he feels the same, not high ofc.
Thank youuu, I do feel like he know that I like him too. I have made some noticeable approaches. But it is true that he might be hesitating; he mentioned about how he loved this girl a couple of years ago but she broke up with him and he struggles with mental health and visits a psychologist. Yet he truly makes me happy and I hope I do the same for him. It's just that he doesn't text me often and sometimes mid conversation he looks like he wants to leave. I don't want to mess up our friendship by confessing my feelings and let's say he doesn't feel the same about me. I have also noticed that when he is drunk/high he tends to ignore me more than when he is sober. He is all goofy with me and if we cross paths, he always interacts with me.