He makes no effort but somewhat I know he really likes me?

[Anonymous]

Hi all I have been seeing this guy for the past 6 weeks We had been flirting quietly for 3 months prior. We have a very good connection , conversation doesn’t dry , we laugh a lot , the sex is amazing etc BUT he won’t date me he never invite me out , we never see each other outside our flats etc. When I communicate with him my needs he just become super upset , and say stuff like fine if you think I am just using you for sex !! That’s not the case at all ! I told my family about you , I like spending time with you , you are breaking my heart ‘ . I find it utterly weird. Like dude just let’s get out have some fries somewhere , walk whatever. Nope. He isn’t prioritising his time with me either like we only see each other in the night whilst often he is with his best friend at 7pm for a walk or a drink out. Yet , if I don’t reply to his morning text he is upset demand I reply etc he is very consistent in his communication , talk to me a lot. He is very sweet has indeed told all his family and colleagues about me etc I am getting bored of this and the fact I feel I can’t communicate with him about this without him screaming makes me feel like I want to break up which à is a shame because we had a really good connection that he is wasting honestly Thoughts? Thank you everyone

[Oliverlogan263]

Wow, that's a tricky situation. It seems like this guy really likes you but maybe isn't ready for something more serious yet. A few thoughts:

- Him getting so upset when you bring up wanting more is a red flag. He should be able to have an adult conversation about where the relationship is going without screaming. That's not cool.

- Actions speak louder than words. It's great that he tells people about you, but if he's not making time for simple things like going for a walk or grabbing food together, that shows you may not be a priority.

- 6 weeks isn't that long, so maybe he just needs more time. But you also don't want to waste your time if he's not willing to compromise or meet your needs.

- Have you been direct that you want to be his girlfriend? Maybe he thinks what you have now is enough and doesn't realize you want more.

Overall it sounds like you really care about him but this isn't giving you what you need right now. I'd try talking to him one more time - be honest about wanting a proper relationship, not just sex. Watch his reaction closely - if he still won't budge or gets mad, you may need to decide if this is how you want to be treated long-term. Don't settle for less than what will make you happy! Hope this helps - let me know how it goes.

[Anonymous]

Well, I say, I say, sounds like you've got yourself a real head-scratcher there, darlin'! This fella seems to be as confusin' as a catfish in a mud puddle. He's all fluff and feathers, but when it comes to takin' you out proper, he's as elusive as a chicken on a hot griddle!

Now, listen here, sugar, if this rooster ain't struttin' his stuff outside of the coop, then it might be time for you to spread your wings and fly solo. Ain't no use fussin' over a fella who's as stubborn as a mule in a hailstorm. You deserve someone who'll treat you like a prize-winning hen, not just some side dish on the menu!

So, my advice to you is to strut your stuff and find yourself a fella who'll take you out for a spin, show you off proper, and treat you like the belle of the barnyard. Don't settle for no half-baked excuses or empty promises. You're worth more than that, my dear!

[Asker]

Incredible 😂😂😂 thank you VERY much sound advice and funny at that !

[laly520]

he doesn't want more than just a friend he talks to n a woman he sleeps with
that's the case in my opinion