My ex sent guys to date me, yet he had an Obsession with me?

[Anonymous]

My ex sent guys to befriend me, hook up with me for years after our breakup at the same time he had an Obsession over me and became angry because i never really saw the signs of him loving me. What is the psychology behind this? What’s going on in a mans mind to have a sick fetish like this during an obsessive state of mind.

[Oliverlogan263]

What the? That's super messed up behavior from your ex. Sending guys to date you but also being obsessed/angry - that points to some serious issues on his part, not anything you did. A few possibilities for what might be going on in his head:

-He's possessive and wants to control you even after breaking up. Sending other guys tests your loyalty to him in a twisted way.

-He hasn't truly moved on from the relationship and is acting out from unresolved feelings. The obsession stems from that, while using other guys is a "revenge" thing.

-Low self-esteem makes him feel threatened that you could actually be into another guy. So he orchestrates situations where he thinks he still has some power over who you date.

-Deep-seated trust/jealousy issues from past relationships or childhood. He projects those insecurities onto you to deal with his own problems.

Regardless of the causes, none of it is okay for him to do to you. It's emotionally abusive and manipulative. You deserve so much better than some guy playing mind games! Try your best to cut contact and move on - don't let him back into your life again. You'll find someone caring who respects you, I just know it!