How to know if someone file a police report on you?

[Anonymous]

I reached out to this guy after 5 years of not speaking to him basically explaining the reason I wasn’t talking to him and that I didn’t mean to bother him or anything it’s just something I wanted to clear up because I want to move on, he saw it but didn’t respond. Four months after he send me a message saying how he filed a complaint with the police for harassing him and the cops are going to visit me soon with the papers. I didn’t know what to say so I blocked him and i couldn’t catch myself I was panicking and stressed out thinking of my whole life. I don’t want anything to do with him but I don’t understand why he would do something like that and why file the report and tell me? Why scare me? What kind of game is he playing? Is he lying so I would beg him not to get me in trouble? I can’t figure this guy out when I wasn’t speaking to him he was like a dog in the rain. Please help.

[WindAtMyBack]

Five years is a long time to suddenly "reach out" to someone. I don't know what you said, or how it came across.

He may have lied about filing a report. Or he may have told the truth. Either way I would not contact him again. Unless you went way overboard in what you said to him, I seriously doubt the police will, or could, do anything.

Just forget about the whole thing and move on. To find out if he really filed a report, maybe contact the police department. I don't know if they will tell you or not. BUT, I recommend forgetting about it and moving on.

[Asker]

I deleted the message or else I could shown you, I didn’t threaten him or say anything that could seem like I was bothering him I told him I wish him the best and I wanted to move on, was he trying to scare me then?

[WindAtMyBack]

Most likely he was trying to make it very clear that he didn't want any more contact from you. I have no way of knowing for sure though.

[Asker]

But he was waiting for me to respond but I blocked him should that be enough for him to know that I don’t want to speak to him?

[WindAtMyBack]

LET IT GO

Stop thinking about it. Don't let this turn into an obsession.

You are the one who contacted him, not the other way around. It's been five years. You seriously need to forget about it.

[Asker]

I don’t understand why I’m getting obsessed, it’s tiring 😫 I’m gonna work on myself

[WindAtMyBack]

Obsessions are the kind of thing that can snowball. It builds on itself and gets bigger and bigger once it starts. It's best to nip it in the bud.

It's OK to feel bad about something, or want to apologize for past behavior. But it shouldn't consume you.

There are things in my past that I feel bad about. There are people I'd like to apologize to if I ever saw them again. But I'm not obsessed with it.

You wrote him to explain. That should be enough. You need to draw the line between simply wanting to explain yourself, and being obsessed over it. Now it's time to move on.

[Asker]

It’s just so hard to move on too….

[spartan55]

I feel there is a bunch of information missing here.

[Asker]

Like wiser

[Asker]

What *

[spartan55]

Like what happened between you two. You're part in the drama, etc.

[In_Trance]

What kind of an absolute shitshow would lead to something like this?