Do guys think he’s only traveling states away to see me just to have sex with me?

[Cindyasks]

I met this guy on instagram and we’ve been talking for 2 months. He wants me to see him so bad that even offered to pay half of my trip but I declined. Now he’s willing to come to my state just to see me. I feel he only wants sex even though I was the one starting the sexual conversation just to end this fast.
• He talks to me on the phone almost everyday day sometimes twice morning and night.
• He tells me about his day and show me where he works through FaceTime.
• we already had couple of arguments over his jealousy but he ends up acting normal again (to me that’s fake jealousy).
•he talks about having me as a wife but told me he needs to know me first.
I’m a person who’s always thinking negative and won’t believe a thing because my ex husband is extremely faithful so I don’t think I can get something like that.

[noemiii]

One thing you didn’t include is what he said HE wanted. Whatever he said he wants out of this, is what he wants and that’s your answer.

Yes, some men will travel for sex. But most men don’t spend much time chatting with you on a conversational level if they only wanted sex. What makes you think that’s all he wants? Because from what you described he is willing to date you. Men are extremely easy to read and even the most desperate of man still wouldn’t waste his time having conversations daily with a woman he JUST wanted to have sex with. Would you do that with a man you only wanted to have sex with?

Try not to be so pessimistic. This is one of those situations you should go with the flow with, but have no expectations. You also can not be disappointed if he expects sex if you’re talking about it. It’s ultimately your decision but from what you described, he seems interested in a relationship and it seems you might be struggling with abandonment issues and self sabotage.

[luvstoned4him]

Could be but at least he is putting in major effort. Most men nowadays won't pay a dime and want to use you for free sex.

as well as he could be serious. You won't know unless you try him out and see.

[dudeinohio]

Yes. He expects sex. Why else would he travel all this way. And if you talked sexual to him all this does is make him expect it more.

Prepare yourself.

[spartan55]

Okay, you are contradicting yourself left and right. What makes you think he only wants sex?

[Cindyasks]

Well I initiated the sex conversation to move fast and see his intentions. I think that’s what he wants because he wants to see me really bad. He has friends (I don’t) is the manager of a company and owns a small business with his father. So I asked him why don’t you find cheaper sex over there instead of me or you moving from our state 20 hours away in car. He’s like well I can’t find a girl who appreciates a man like me that works and has decent environment (family, credit score, good job) except his drinking and weekends going out. He wants a woman like me who cooks and has wife material manners. I can’t believe that because my ex husband was the only man who was faithful and respected me. Yeah he was fast on the sex but we lasted years and he still wants me so it’s hard to believe I can find someone else like him. They all want sex or nothing serious these days.

[spartan55]

That's not true at all. So you initiated the sex conversation to 'move fast and see his intentions'... wtf that makes no sense. Let me save you from the trouble of having to use some ridiculous test that says nothing anyway:
ALL GUYS WANT SEX, some guys want sex and a relationship. I mean, your little game proved nothing. All it did was make him think you want sex.
I'm not sure why you keep mentioning your ex husband, it's very weird tbh. He's far from the only guy who is faithful and respectful. So...
And you are asking for advice to find a reason to stop talking to him? Girl you aren't very stable.

[Nikki1989]

Some men will travel to the other side of the world if they think they can get a leg over.

[DishLady]

This is a duplicate post…. But yeah, it’s for sex. What else do you think he wants?

[Cindyasks]

No it’s not. The other ones might be similar but this one is more specific. I just really want an advice so I can find a reason to stop talking to him. So should I stop because I’m starting to have feelings for him and you know it’s not easy

[DishLady]

I mean... LDR is hard... it takes time to assess the other person and you're doing it in bits and pieces that are more complicated than if you were FTF (face to face) 24/7... MOST likely yeah, he wants to get physical, hence the traveling.

[ChicoFromThe305]

You'll surely find out if he's that desperate soon enough

[Lokiion]

Ngl who is going across multiple states just for that if anything he would probably be cheating before doing all of that just for sex

[Danny_dan92]

No… he’s doing this because he wants to play a game of chess.

[In_Trance]

Gong show

[Alex-Snow]

I think he wants sex but do you?

[soe11]

I don't think so.