My partner buys me fine jewelry very oftenly, is it normal?

[Anonymous]

He doesn't complement me but buys me jewellery all time. And he would customise the jewellery by engraving the words of love or whatever. And he wants me to wear them all the time.

I would say a lot of women would love this but is he normal?

[_Maya_]

Maybe it is normal for him. Define what normal is for me, personally. I bet you can't do it because you have no clue what is normal for me. It is different than what is normal for you and for him and for your parents and... so on. He buys you nice things and that might be the way he compliments you because he isn't the type that is going to say it. That might just be his style. The more worrying part of this is why you feel like you have to post this on the internet to get other people's opinions on a relationship we know nothing about instead of being "normal" and talking to your partner about your concerns. No, you can't say that you don't have concerns either because you would only be lying to yourself. If there weren't, you wouldn't have posted this.

[Asker]

Yeah I feel concerned about his gifting of intimate jewellery. It feels overwhelming..

[_Maya_]

Tell him that. You don't have to be mean about it but just say something like while I appreciate the sentiment of all this jewelry it is overwhelming at times. Be honest.

[Asker]

I don't want to say anything to him. I just feel that he is a bit possessive, he doesn't call me pretty or beautiful cause he feels that other people are looking at me or something like that.

[DishLady]

Is it normal to spoil a woman he loves? Sure, why not, silly? Some guys are bad with words and try to make up for it with gifts. Personally, it's not my thing -- I prefer a kind word most of the time -- but your guy is who he is... his act of love is to give you stuff. I it bothers you that much you can give the stuff back instead of whining about it... Have a talk with him to let him know what you prefer so he's not wasting his time trying to get you stuff he thinks you'll like...

[Asker]

I prefer good words than gifts, but yeah Ur right it's not his thing to use words, instead he gives them in gifts 🎁.

[DishLady]

Yeah... it's just the way he expresses himself. My friend is married to a guy like that. QUIET AF, but will come home with a little box or a new book or something and squeeze her shoulder. That's it... that's his "I love you babe."

[spartan55]

How often do you compliment him?

[HelpfulWoman]

sounds a bit like love bombing to me...

[jahaims]

You already know the answer

[In_Trance]

Oftenly is a hell of a word

[spartan55]

I'm going to use it in Scrabble.