My fiancé wants me to buy both of our wedding rings. Is this okay?

[Anonymous]

[Rei13]

I don’t like it. I could see you both splitting it but that shouldn’t be all on you. How are you both normally with money? Does he usually pay, is it split, or is mostly you? If it is mostly you then you’re just setting that precedent and he might be using you

[Staximus]

Hell no, that's some bum bullshit. Did he even buy you an engagement ring when he proposed? Why are you going to marry a bum who is not willing or able to contribute as much as you financially? Are you going to get stuck paying all the rent and paying for everything if you have a baby, too? I'm warning you now. Do not let this guy get you pregnant and don't marry him until he gets his shit together. Do not give him any money. If he has a good job and never has any money, he's probably got a gambling or drug problem you don't know about. Also don't marry him until you've lived with him for at least a year and know what you're getting yourself into. Do not rush into marriage with this guy.

[spartan55]

Solid advice that likely won't be taken.

[OlderAndWiser]

Who is paying for the rest of the wedding? How much is he paying for? How does that compare to the cost of the rings? Are you paying for any of the other wedding costs?

[zoe2187]

Noooo! If he can’t afford his share it doesn’t sound like he’s ready to be married. Look at it this way. You’ll always remember you buying your ring. It needs to be a special memory.

[AviatorTom]

No, the wedding ring is a gift from one partner to the other. He should pay for your ring, and you for his. It does make sense that you get the rings together, at the same time.

[abc3643]

You mean your ex-fiancé.
If a man can't show you that he can support you, then he doesn't deserve you.

[Dinklex3]

You don’t trust your finance and are worried he’s using you?

Are you sure you should be getting married?

[Anonymous]

wedding... marriage... both of you should split the costs for everything now. since you are now going to be one. unless you are getting a prenup (i suggest you do).

[EmmaMary]

Congratulations on winning a Troll of the day award.

[WhitneySnow]

Only if you have a lot more money than he has and he has a legit job or is in school

[Sparkie460]

Chances are that you will never see that money ever again.

[Asker]

That’s my worry… I’m worried that he’s using me.

[Sparkie460]

Does he have a good steady job

[FunkyMonkee]

Sounds like a huge red flag, to me! A bad sign of a huge shit storm to come!!

[Anonymous]

Doesn't seem traditional or right. Is he contributing in some other way?

[Asker]

No, he says he’s just tight for cash right now and will try to pay me back.

[spartan55]

@asker
"will try to pay you back means you won't ever see that money" This is a huge red 🚩 flag.

[Vegasrunner]

Lol, if "love" is all that matters then this wouldn't be a question.

[fuddly]

Do you mean the gold bands?
And he bought the engagement ring?


Usually the gold bands are not too expensive

[Anonymous]

LOL! Sounds like you've got yourself one deadbeat man! Congratulations!

[provokeesmokee]

Are you okay with it? Why?

[leahzrc]

no what the hell why?

[Nikki1989]

Is he a bum, unemployed?

[ronaldo75]

What is he paying for?