So there is this married guy who I work with and I am single?

[Anonymous]

Anyways he calls his friend over bc we was talking about something and his friend goes if it’s meant to be it will happen I said why did you say that that’s not funny bc this guy coworker is married and his friend said those terms what do y'all think

[Anonymous]

Yeah sorry I don’t get the question. Feel free to resubmit your question with more details.

If it’s involving sleeping with someone else. Look cheaters suck…. But they will reap what they sow all in time. Kids with another person, STD’s, and the list goes on. Getting divorced and loosing everything.

[Asker]

Technically saying why would his friend say terms like love is in the air or if it’s meant to be it will be knowing his friend is married guy

[Opinion Owner]

It depends on who tjhefe talking about. If loves on their air for others around then

[Asker]

He was referring to us

[Opinion Owner]

I don’t know what’s going on in his mind. It’s hard to say it could be a number of things.

Point blank DO NOT PURSUE ANYTHING romantic and/or sexual with someone whose married. If they cheat that’s on them. Don’t scoop to that level.

Number one it’s wrong. Wrong is wrong period. Number two it can open doors for all sorts of problems and consequences you don’t want to deal with.

[Asker]

I’m saying his friend was referring to us two

[Opinion Owner]

Yes I know. He probably has intentions. Do not DO NOT pursue it. File a complaint to HR and if he tries anything tell him to fuck off

[spartan55]

I don't get what you are asking here. You want advice on how to get with a married man? If you have any smarts at all you won't entertain these situations. Especially at work.

[Asker]

No I said I was standing to this married guy and his friend comes over and says if it’s meant to be I’ll happen referring to us I don't know why he said that bc he knows his friend is married

[spartan55]

Why does it matter why he said it? If it's something you aren't interested in then it's irrelevant. Why don't you ask that guy why he said it? For all you know, he might have been talking about something else.

[Asker]

He was referring to us two bc he came up

[spartan55]

What do you mean he came up?

[Asker]

His friend came up and said those things

[spartan55]

Yeah... and? Why are you so worried about what those clowns say?

[Asker]

It’s unusual and not funny

[spartan55]

Okay, then say something to him about it?

[Asker]

I did I said love is down the air he laughed

[spartan55]

Tell him to STOP.

[Asker]

No but so can I ask you something else than

[Asker]

Ask you’re opinion about it

[spartan55]

Sure

[Asker]

Well he said I give him stress so he wanted me to move to different schedule I would just see him 2 days less like what’s wrong with this guy like why does he feel like he has the right to tell me to do things I told him why not he go

[spartan55]

Is he your supervisor?

[Asker]

Coworker just like me

[Asker]

So that’s when this married guy called his friend over and his friend was like go to team 3 and if it’s meant to be I’ll be referring for me to move what’s going on here

[Asker]

And secondly why does this married guy feel like he has the power or right to dictate what I should do like you can come speak to me but doing
This whole scene in front of others

[Asker]

Than comes in the next to work and acts like nothing happens between us

[Asker]

Sorry than comes in to work the next day acts like nothing happened

[spartan55]

Just remind him that he isn't your supervisor and then ignore him.

[Asker]

Right than comes in the next day like
As if nothing happened

[Asker]

Why he acting like this

[spartan55]

Because he's a jerk? Why does it matter?

[Asker]

So why does he feel like he has the right to treat me this way

[spartan55]

No idea. Is it not good enough to just label him a shithead and forget about it?

[Asker]

Yes loo

[spartan55]

Great problem solved

[Asker]

Thanks 🙏

[Booklover_90]

Don’t even entertain it. He’s married. He’s not available to you.

[Asker]

So why would his friend say those terms knowing his friend is married

[Booklover_90]

I don’t know and honestly, it doesn’t matter. He’s married. He’s not available. Shut it DOWN.

[Asker]

Right but why say something like that and the married guy didn’t even comment could of said I’m married

[Booklover_90]

Don’t worry about what they’re saying. Now that you know he’s married, don’t proceed. Be clear with them. “I don’t fool around with married men.”

[Asker]

Well right but wouldn’t you think the right thing for this married guy to say and do is confront and say I am married sorry

[Booklover_90]

Don’t expect people to do such and such. Rather, focus on what YOUR next move will be. Life has taught me that you have to focus on your OWN words and actions. Not that of other people. You can’t focus on what other grown people need to do or should do. It’s exhausting!

[DrPepper12]

Try that again in English

[Asker]

I was standing with this married guy coworker and we was discussing something he goes and calls his friend his friend says if it’s meant to be it will happen referring to us two I’m asking why would he say such words knowing that his friend is married

[DrPepper12]

Cuz he's DTF

[Asker]

Who is dtf

[jahaims]

You didn't ask a question

[Asker]

Technically saying why would his friend say terms like love is in the air or if it’s meant to be it will be knowing his friend is married guy

[SoJust]

I did not understand your question

[Asker]

No I said I was standing to this married guy and his friend comes over and says if it’s meant to be I’ll happen referring to us I don't know why he said that bc he knows his friend is married

[zombiewoof]

What do you want

[Asker]

Nothing from
Him but his friend keeps saying oh Iove is in the air or if it’s meant to be I’ll be

[zombiewoof]

put him in his place

[Asker]

Wym when his friend said that I commented and said you think it’s funny but the married guy didn’t even say anything

[zombiewoof]

tell the guy making the comments you do not know what he is talking about, if he starts hinting tell him you are not interested

[Asker]

The married guy never says those things but his close friend always says something along those lines yet this guy who Is married just be quiet

[Asker]

I mean I feel like he could say something like hey what you talking bout I’m married or something along those lines

[zombiewoof]

he may of said something to his friend about how he found you attractive or something like that and the friend is making something of it

[spartan55]

@asker why does matter if he says he's married or not? You should concern yourself with YOUR words and actions.

[zombiewoof]

i did not say it was funny, i give up, you are making it bigger than it needs to be,

[Asker]

I told them both don’t think it’s funny I wasn’t referring to you now

[Asker]

Do yo think **

[zombiewoof]

okay