Do guys intend to touch girls in crowded roads / situations?

Question

I'm not sure if it's me or if it's common that I face such thing all the time.

Guys tend to make physical contact against me and brush their hands against random areas of my body while I walk past them in crowded roads or events.

Do guys always think this way and have such intentions to touch girls while walking past them in crowded places?

Not to mention how sometimes in a crowded event, most of the times a guy stand right behind me and as it's crowded, he press his body against me and act as if he's not aware.

Guys, may I know what goes through your minds during such situations and why such contact happens?

CalmUntilAbused · Accepted Answer

Not sure about other guys, but I certainly wouldn't. Unless I wished for some action in jail, and I sure don't want any. It's actually disturbing how even though all the inmates are supposedly in jail due to "a terrible mistake of the judicial system", as long as my papers said I've been sent to jail for an assault on a woman, they would instantly believe it and make my life a hell I could only escape by taking my own life. In the past, it used to be righteous, since rapists would get their proper punishment this way, as simply being sent to jail for such a crime is hardly enough. These days, however, with the introduction of Amber Heard-class life destroyers and widespread adoption of the "nobody will believe you because you're a man" attitude within the society and the judicial system, it's a pretty outdated custom.

In other words... No, I never intend to make physical contact with any woman in crowded places. I even go as far as to actively avoid any physical contact with women, to the point where I'd rather bump into a man on the bus than allow a woman to bump into me in case of an absolute emergency, which can be pretty weird since I'm 100% straight, so if I bump into a homosexual man one day to avoid making physical contact with a woman, I might find myself in a situation that is hardly better than if I actually ended up in jail for an alleged assault on a woman.

Tarifa · Accepted Answer

In my book, that's a creepy thing to do. At all ages, we're not just talking old guys here. You keep your hands to yourself with strangers and have respect for women.

It can happen though in very crowded situations. I remember a concert where there were so many people, a girl behind me and slightly to my left had her breast pressed against my arm. There was not a lot I could do to avoid that. It happened on a crowded bus, where this girl just stood very close. I will typically ask if she wants to change places so she's a bit more comfortable.

I think we must accept these things can happen. But we men are not looking to prompt such behaviour. Sure, there are some creeps out there. Try to avoid them.

ShellyB · Accepted Answer

There is a suspicious amount of brushing against my body and I assume other girls bodies in crowded situations like some parties or at clubs, and when I visited a friend in NYC in the subway. One time I know it was deliberate bc he squeezed my butt, I couldn’t tell who it was there were 2 possibilities so I just got off the subway at the next stop and got back on the next one that came by. Anyway no it is not just you and, what they are thinking who knows. I doubt they know, just horny or want to see how we react I think.

Damaged00 · Accepted Answer

There are probably a few who might do it on purpose. But I don't believe most are doing it on purpose. You are probably more aware of it than they are. It seems you don't notice females accidentally brushing up against you when it's crowded. You're only hyperfixated on men. Maybe ask yourself why.. or next time in a crowded area notice if females also do this. It's crowded it happens.

TheorionMage · Answer

A  candid social witticism sez:  
 "I WISH someone was touching me inappropriately right now."  In truth, if free of long-term consequence, we ALL are sensual tactile beings and once you have been 'jaded ENOUGH' to experience 'arousal' you become  concupiscent and hypocritical.  
  Imagine...  if We responded as sensuously and honestly as cats do, to being fondled and massaged, even by well-intention-ed perfect strangers. In Asian cultures, there is a predatory erotic fetish termed:  'Chikan'  for involuntary tactile foreplay arousal~ Done clumsily its intimate 'groping'

lightbulb27 · Answer

some probably do, most don't. talked to a guy that did jail time for that. some have no control.

there's no way around "male wants female"...

and thus you get ideas... dress modestly, burkas, etc. to avoid triggering the behavior. nothing is perfect.

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

Not so long ago, decades? A century?  Groping girls was a widely tolerated behaviour , tolerance for such moves is declining steadily, I hope, but that's not going to disappear that far,  History is slow motion?  Lol. So, considering that downright groping was a common thing, then  what your report is completely expected. Sadly. Now,  I think it's a problem related to men , I've read too many times the idea that it's a problem related to women & their dresscode or whatever. What BS. The reasoning that man, essentially, cannot exert self-control meaning that  women must fix men, by covering their bodies is painful to hear , over and over. Because it constantly implies that man is a primitive and uncontrollable kid. As a man, thank you not for supporting this reasoning that deem all of us essentially immature, at core. I know it's cultural, but then,  fuck your culture, or maybe fix your culture?  Really makes me sick lol Politely said:  Educate your sons !

HawkPerception · Answer

Judging by the way you dress (provocatively), there's likely to be more guys that do that kind of stuff to you... because you present yourself in a certain way that implies you like those kinds of interactions and attention.

If you want less guys to do that to you, show it through the way you dress and your body language. The majority of men do not feel okay touching girls in the scenarios you've mentioned. You should also be able to pick up from their body language when they're going to engage in that kind of behaviour. Be intelligent.

blueonblack22 · Answer

Men who intentionally do this are sick creeps.

Now sometimes men unintentionally bump against women in crowded areas and some women will always assume the worst (it literally gives them an adrenaline rush to assume the worst about men).

But you should be able to tell by the man’s body language and how it happened if it was an accident or not. If it really was no accident get away for him or if he really did something wrong call him out on it.

RavVid · Answer

Sounds like they are coping a feel in the street.

In crowded bars it can be inevitable there is somebody close beside you. I would probably subconsciously be making space between myself and other men which would have the consequence of less space between me and women. That might contribute to what you are describing.

It has pretty much been my experience women that have intruded on my space. I have been used by a girl as a wall to lean against many times.

I was in a bar near the toilets and it was very crowded. A girl put her hand on my shoulder and squeezed her right breast over my chest than the left breast. If she was to get to the toilet it just had to be done. I am not going to say I didn't enjoy it. I did.

My point is girls can be making excessively close contact too.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

I think you be hanging around boys and not men which at your age is understandable. Most men would respect your private space and not be so horny they think they have the right to rub against you in a crowded space. A man would wave you through and wait his turn.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

It happened to me a few times as a teenager by other teen boys, like the standing right behind you in a crowd where you can't feel him against you.. I didn't really care back then too much but other than that.. no never really had guys touch me as an adult but I also avoid crowded places now so I'm not really involved in those situations anymore lol.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

I mean... you kinda have to try to feel up a woman in a crowd. It's not you'd really have to have to go out of your way to do it, but it's also not like there are a ton of situations where you can explore a woman's crack and keep your hands at your side. People just aren't usually standing that close together. Unless the woman is rubbing her booty meat on me, I'd have to make an intentional choice to feel her up.

Makeushiver · Answer

I had a beautiful almond eyed Egyptian woman run her long fingernails back and forth on my arm while traveling Cairo metro. It was about as low key touch as could be construed intimate but she held her eyes locked onto mine during it. It was intensely erotic.

Anonymous · Answer

As someone who transitioned female-to-male I'll say that when I looked like a woman I did get bumped into / brushed against more often, and when I started looking like a man is when I started getting apologies if it happened.

I've always been good at navigating crowds myself without touching women or men, but I also don't want to touch women anyway. I can't speak for straight guys.

mandyfire98 · Answer

Oh it definitely happens. Happened a lot in college at the bars and clubs. You could just be trying to walk up to the bar to get a drink and easily get groped.

JSkye · Answer

I am invested in these answers. That happens to me a lot too. Sometimes I feel like it's accidental, but I distinctly get the impression it is purposeful sometimes

Summeroflove · Answer

Some do this yeah but if it’s crowded it happens to the best of us. I’m very aware of my personal space and don’t like crowds much. I do my best to make as little contact as possible

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

I guess it depends on how crowded it is, if it's very close to each other, hands can go to uncalled for places without that being the intention, if they have arm room to swing their arms and they still touch then that's pretty weird

MicahRaine · Answer

F no. It happens to guys too. It's not intentional 80% of the time. Some guys are creeps, but the rest of us are just trying to get where we're going.

Staximus · Answer

I used to work security at a bar. Sometimes when a band was playing , the people would be packed in there like sardines. I used to tell guys to take a step back if the girl didn't know him, I don't like those sleazy bastards.

alice55 · Answer

They don't, you basically can't help it but touch people when it's extremely crowed

DishLady · Answer

Why are you letting guys do this to you? It's not appropriate.

Nik1hil · Answer

Some asshole pervert men do, like to do that. Not my thing, I hate that, touching people out of nowhere or getting touched.

bowenw · Answer

The are creeps touching women in an inappropriate way because they are confident they can get away with it.

Anonymous · Answer

Guys always try to use crowded situations to feel your boobs as if it was an accident. You have to be careful not to get into those locations.

Yannae · Answer

No, that is not normal. You're just surrounded by creeps. Guys usually know about what's okay and what's not. And this is is weird as hell.

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genericname85 · Answer

i'm sure there's a ver sad specimen who'd do that. but generally, no.

Wise4myage · Answer

Only fools would do such a thing, but yeah, it does happen.

Huntingnfishin · Answer

Creepy dudes maybe. I will say my bubble with personal space tends to be much smaller with women then men, so accidental touching happens. But for the most part dudes just being creepy

Gdude9 · Answer

No I don’t think I would  I don’t have any desire to end up in jail

MrGSpotHer · Answer

I don't do that and I wouldn't like to think what they are thinking and why they do it

Celticwolf78 · Answer

I'm going to say that its some that are doing it on purpose and 90% don't do that but if you are noticing it then you're focusing on it way to much

retarb · Answer

I know certain cultures have a very big rape problem. Be careful out there, keep yourself armed and ready for a fight.

AydenHazor · Answer

A lot of guys do this intentionally because they can get away with it. Personally I didn't touch anyone in any way without consent

chrissykerdock · Answer

i remember such a situation in high shool i was fingered and my panties pulled down to my knees

Jackblue · Answer

They are being perverts, in some cases that could be sexual assualt.

Kelley1 · Answer

You have a vivid imagination.

Surferboi_02 · Answer

Yes some guys do i t might sound weird but it is a form of dominance showing other guys that they are fearless or you just ho to places were a lot of pervs are lol.

Anonymous · Answer

I never do that, I'm very shy, and too polite for that kind of behavior.

elizamichale1 · Answer

I have become so used to being groped on busses n tubes

Twalli · Answer

Most guys know this is inappropriate and don't do it.

andy530 · Answer

I would assume most don’t

jjj101010 · Answer

U mean they r groping u?

BazookaTrouper · Answer

No. Or at least, I don't.

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

NEVER I !!!

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