Why would men be attracted to you but never make a move?

Question

And still stare very long. Just curious

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Because some of them can be shy and assume she won’t want anything to do with him , he feels she is out of his league , and that she could land someone more attractive than he is. Sadly , Some girls’ feel that way about themselves as well , thinking she isn’t pretty enough or good enough , automatically assuming the guy she likes doesn’t like her back the same. Sadly a lot of people have low self esteem about themselves , they constantly compare themselves to other people , thinking they aren’t good enough. I know I get that low self esteem feeling at times , especially when I see a picture of myself that someone else took of me , I automatically go ewwww , why the hell did you take that picture of me , I look disgusting and I look like I need to hit the gym more. So we become our own worst enemies. So to maintain confidence in yourself isn’t easy for a lot of people to do , so many things can trigger someone to feel that way about themselves, social media is one of them , or if they heard other people talking shit about them , or if they been denied by someone they showed interest in , so many things can kill someone’s self esteem about themselves. Why it’s best to surround
Yourself with people that accept you for who you are as a person , that say nice things to you , people
That say mean things about you are people that are insecure about themselves, they are projecting their own insecurities on to you. My ex had very low self esteem about herself , she never felt like she was beautiful. I told her , you wouldn’t have had any relationships with guys’ if you weren’t attractive to them , so stop knocking yourself down. Sadly a lot of low self esteem people seek validation , because they don’t think they are beautiful , when someone is seeking validation , they are usually someone you can’t trust because the second they do receive validation from the opposite sex , they are all about it , and will more than likely cheat on you if they are your partner , my ex had an emotional affair with a co worker because she was seeking validation , she was loving the attention she was receiving from this other guy , that clearly just wanted to fuck her , but she acted like she was dumb about it when I busted her when I saw texts on her phone from this other guy saying very inappropriate shit , I kicked her out of the house and ended it with her. I use to tell my ex every day she was beautiful to me , and this is how she thanked me by being a low self esteem selfish whore.

Summeroflove · Accepted Answer

Well probably many reasons you feel attracted to a man but don’t make a move, it can be many reasons.

The first reason is nervousness, worried he will be rejected, worried that even if he’s not rejected things won’t work out, worried about someone using him, just reasons someone is worried about approaching.

Another reason could be that it’s too risky. If let’s say it’s a coworker situation even a superior/subordinate type situation that’s even more risky, someone like a best friends sister, sisters best friend, and the list goes on. It’s just deciding if the risk is worth it or not.

Another possible reason? Maybe he is attracted but isn’t ready for anything yet. It’s possible he’s in a relationship. It’s possible that he’s talking to other girls at the time but fancies you but maybe doesn't want to complicate things anymore.

Maybe it’s a bad time to approach and the lust just keeps going on. At the end of the day I don’t care if you’re male or female. If you’re into someone…. It’s your responsibility to make a move nobody is obligated to approach you and more times then not someone waits too long, the other person looses attraction and then they wonder why they are running off with someone else….

At the end of the day don’t waste time. Many people are worried about rejection so they just wait around on someone doing stuff like that. Which just makes it more awkward then being direct and if you get rejected. Does it suck? Well obviously but if sucks even more to waste time crushing on someone who you’re never gonna be with anyways. You have closure to the situation.

On the other hand if the attraction is mutual you’re probably not the only person into the other person. So many times what happens, especially in situations where someone doesn't know the other well is that…. Well they may catch feelings for someone else and since they already know that person person having more of a connection they take the next step. If…. That other person doesn’t make a move on on them first.

The last reason, maybe some people aren’t even attracted. Some people just stare either being nosey, you remind them of someone, zoning out not realizing it, and the list goes on. While stating many times does mean attraction not always.

Ifs rude to just stare though and many times you’re gonna eventually make someone uncomfortable even if you think it’s not noticeable more times then not. It is…

lanelle116 · Accepted Answer

They are a few I can think of.  They are probably shy They may have other options They may be conflicted about when to make a move They may have you in mind as a "Plan B" (You are worth more than that by the way)

Nikki1989 · Accepted Answer

Shyness, social awkwardness, insecurity or just plain laziness. All are very common.

Oncewildtwiceburned · Answer

If you are just talking about glances in public than of course they aren’t going to make a cold approach on a stranger/random woman 96% of the time.

They are busy, even if they are spacing out admiring you, they didn’t schedule and plan to go do cold approaches for a dates today. I get stared at a lot by all sorts of women back when I was younger I hated it, I would get girls asking me out and it was embarrassing, 1: I grew up in the wilderness. 2: My type was set and it made me picky.

Those aforementioned dynamics are the life of average women today I’ve heard and guys are too scared to cold approach women now more than ever. Its mostly fear but the media kinda points to it being border line harassing or “sexism” lol.

We are hardwired to look at attractive women as well, we can’t help it too much, my excuse is since they almost always look at I look at them, now at least I’m not weird about I’ll smile at least and not be some autistic mountain man crackhead about it. I also have never had a job where other women worked so seeing women has become interesting, I sound like I live under a rock and basically I guess I did. My girlfriend is used to me glancing at other women now, she understands and she is ok with it because the women in her fam/work talk about me.

M-Trimble · Answer

Because they like you, but are unsure if you feel the same way. If the guy is nervous or uncertain if he should make a move then he is probably dropping subtle hints towards you and looking for some kind of reaction or response that would indicate that your interested in him too, before he makes the next move. More than likely he has the fear of being rejected. If you like him, give him a hint or a sign.

Anonymous · Answer

Staring is more lust then really liking you. He might be shy or just thinking of you sexually

DrPepper12 · Answer

Another anonymous question on a plain vanilla topic.

Men will linger longer to look at you if they do find your attract however they may be cuffed they may not have time to pursue a date with you they may be working there is an incredible list of reasons why they might check you out but not pursue it

RavVid · Answer

I could be highly attracted to a hot woman - and stare a lot - but realistically assess she was not right for me but nonetheless continue to want to have sex with her.

Texaskid1 · Answer

Are you good looking?

If you are , most men will look but not do anything. A cute girls who is a decent 7 has a better chance of getting a boyfriend that a hot 10. If she is too hot it is almost sur-real.

ManInChains · Answer

Because they're afraid of being accused of harassment for being confident and persistent in today's dating landscape and I don't blame them

RingOfFire · Answer

Fear of rejection Sexual interest only not any more Too shy Not interested in a relationship Already has a relationship Some combination of the above

EzraIsShy76028 · Answer

Most common answer: he's shy and/or has social anxiety; or is very insecure and/or has very low self-esteem.  It's usually one of those things most of the time.

Truthatanycost · Answer

I may find a woman attractive and look. It requires a very different level of effort to make a move.

Jersey2 · Answer

Yes. Shy guys. You will have to initiate until he feels really comfortable.

molonski2 · Answer

The answer to your question is a big YES , there are heaps of guys that need a giant push , give him something to work with.

Titus_of_Ultramar · Answer

All kinds of reasons, but one of the big ones is that woman don't understand how hard it is for a man to actually ask her out.

buzzword · Answer

Being eye candy only makes you half way interesting.

Kelley1 · Answer

Average men don't approach pretty women because they know they would be rejected.

Franka9 · Answer

Onzekerheid. Bang om afgewezen te worden. Dat is voor veel mannen een echte barrière. Sommigen worden ook ongemakkelijk als ze met een vrouw praten die ze echt leuk vinden.

Daniela1982 · Answer

Maybe because they think you are married, gay, or are a trans?

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

Sometimes a girl can be so hot... And so not worth it

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Me too Police Wokeness Feminism Women's rights Etc.

Anonymous · Answer

Because he  like your appearance and see you as a challenge. He's a predator and you're the prey.

Juxtapose · Answer

He's shy & cold approaching sucks donkey balls.

nawtee_me · Answer

You can be attractive and unapproachable too… a lot of pretty girls give off that “I am not available vibe”.

Anonymous · Answer

Probably because he is afraid you will falsely accuse him of rape, sexual assault, or sexual harassment. Thank you #metoo

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

Same reason why women would be attracted to you but never make a move

Pterodon · Answer

Afraid of rejection. If you’re interested why don’t you make a move?

Anonymous · Answer

Why would women be attracted to you but never make a move?

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

HAVE YOU EVER TRIED APPROACHING BITCHES IN REAL LIFE? NOT SO EASY.

Nifrayu · Answer

They are waiting for you to make a move.

spartan55 · Answer

Because you aren't showing any interest.

WhitneySnow · Answer

Shy. Or has a girlfriend.

ariadneR · Answer

Because they could be intimidated by you.

Nik1hil · Answer

Admiring the Beauty

Anonymous · Answer

He could just be super shy.

A_Wild_Redhead · Answer

Cause making a move takes work.

Xoirwinkan · Answer

Are you glad for what feminism has done?

LiamJHayden · Answer

They are afraid.

CB-Raido-Time · Answer

You have heard of MeToo?

RedInnocent69 · Answer

Too many girls, too little time.

elaphe · Answer

He may be shy.

jack1924 · Answer

Lack of info  It’s case by case scenario

Light_beam · Answer

May be you wear revealling clothes 😀

CubaPirate · Answer

Shyness and fear of rejection perhaps

Anonymous · Answer

Fear of MeToo statutes and firing squads

Anonymous · Answer

You never gave them a reason to.

bluesparrow · Answer

afraid

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah some things will never change

JustRollTheDice · Answer

They're shy.

Anonymous · Answer

Because he is too shy.

paledreams · Answer

Intimidated lol 😂😆

jahaims · Answer

The vibe you put off

Iron_Man · Answer

Fear

In_Trance · Answer

He's married

MasterKS · Answer

low confidence!

Joesmith999 · Answer

Yea possible

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