What do you feel/think when you see an ex hook up or person you had feelings for the first time after a while?

[Anonymous]

Backstory to this is a had a hookup up with a ex colleague, we had previously been flirting for months when we had worked together, however it ended a bit awkardlt as he kicked me out right after we had slept together ( I think I was at his flat for a grand total of 40 mins). Due to this we kind of agreed to not continue it as he didn't want anything casual and I couldnt do just sex as i did like him. When we first saw each other after this event it was very awks.

However despite then meeting with mutal friends at our work place, where he still worked, I did seem him around for almost 3 months until very randomly and briefly one day.

I know I felt a bit surprised at seeing him as I had gotten so used to not seeing him for ages. I was a little bit happy to see him, my genuine reaction was that i smiled at him and waved. I think i’f i’d known he would have been there i would have reacted more awkwardly.

I also thought he looked really fit🙈

I did want to speak to him, but didn't feel like i could as he was with LOADS of people, there must have been about 8/9 he was with and my social anxiety kicked in.

With other random hookups or failed dating stages i’m not usually that happy to see them so this was a bit strange that this was my reaction

From what I could tell he seemed happy to see me, he was very smiley and we made direct eye contact, but neither of us approached each other just kind of said hi in passing. He did seem to hang around where i was sitting but because i was with a friend ans didn't notice it till she mentioned it

The only thing is, when i’ve then seem him since, he’s been the opposite, very quiet not as smiley and seems to avoid looking at me. I was a bit confused at this switch in behaviour as while we are not close friends i dont have a issue with him and did keep trying to make convo as based on our last interaction thought we were okay

Do you think we both still have feelings for each other? I know i still fancy him and probably always will

[Oliverlogan263]

Woah sis, this is definitely an annoyingly confusing situation! When you first saw this guy again, your reaction gives me some insight though:

- Even after the awkward hookup, you were happy to see him deep down. Feelings don't just disappear overnight.

- He seemed into it too with the big smiley reaction. Def wanted to check you out still.

- Hanging around your area more is a clear sign of interest. Guys don't hover if they totally don't care.

The switch up in his behavior since is throwing me off a bit though. Could be a few things:

- Embarrassed about how the hookup went down and doesn't know how to act normal now.

- Might still like you but is now overthinking it after the fact. Guys can be dumb like that!

- Possibly seeing someone new so he's trying not to lead you on but isn't good at hiding his true feelings either.

I'd say there's definitely still sparks between you two, even if nothing may come of it directly. Attraction doesn't fade that quick. Just do your thing sis - if it's meant to be, the universe will work it out!

[Abbycado]

Don't know. Haven't run into him again. I guess I would be happy because it was an amicable breakup.

He was a year older and going off to college. I had a year left in high school. We knew it wouldn't work. Sad, but we broke up the right way.