How do you feel when you see your ex with a new partner?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I have never seen his new girlfriend.

As he was not uploading anything on WeChat for a year after break up.

He now uploaded the new cover photo, with her, they look very pretty and happy together. He looks happy.

I feel happy for him, but it also hurt kind of, as it made me see the reality I was trying to avoid imagining for a long time, It made me see him looking at another girl the way he used to look at me.

They look very cute and beautiful. He looks very happy. The girl looks total opposite of me, she’s Vietnamese that was born in China.

I can’t help but see the contrast of his life with mine.

I have been feeling lost, empty, half alive and he seems to have a great time of his life. He has found another love so soon. It’s their 1 year anniversary and 1 year and 2 months after my break up.

She’s even wearing a ring on her hand.

He looks at her so gently…

I don’t know. I feel empty and apathetic again, but somewhere it still hurt in a dull way when I came across that photo.

Updates

5 mo

I am fine, now. At that moment of seeing the photo I felt sad. Because it was the first time I saw him with someone else. That first minute passed.

[love_conquers_lust]

I remember my ex’es rather fondly. I don’t know what they’re doing right now and even if I did, I’d hope they all found happiness. Over the years, the pain of the bad memories morphed into wisdom and understanding. It was almost gratifying. As if I wanted to thank them for our experiences teaching me who I was and who I wanted to be. I cherish the good times, and learned from the bad. I don’t want to forget any of it, the bitter sweetness of it. I continue my search and hope to one day cross paths with someone who aligns with me.

It’s not only my ex’es who can wrench my heart. A good friend of mine on here who’d I’d been advising on her marriage misinterpreted what I’d said because of a language barrier and I fear how she took it. Her account is deactivated and I have no way of reaching her. I worry for her wellbeing given her past. She’s such a sweet and kind woman and her husband is lucky to have her. I’m rooting for their marriage because I hope to one day find that for myself.

[love_conquers_lust]

Femme, I still want to know. Do you have dimples? It doesn’t look like it from your photo.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Why do you think I have dimples?

[love_conquers_lust]

Ahh, so you don’t. You mean we discovered something the great LafemmeFatale doesn't have?

On occasion, my ex girlfriend would smile at me while she pressed her index fingers in her cheeks. I’d smile back and say “What do you want?” She’d reply “Oh nothing, thank you.”

I guess it's something you'll never know about, Femme. It's gotten me out of some sticky situations, can't say the same for my ex girlfriend 😁

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I am not Great LaFemmeFatale…

[love_conquers_lust]

So what do you think you are? Who do you think you are? What should we call you? What do you want to be called?

Oh, how do you like the new phone? I saw some of your images you posted and they look like great quality. I briefly had a Samsung and I kind of liked how it was more seamless with my PC. I’m a Windows guy, not a big fan of Apple. I only have an iPhone because my sister is a teacher and she’s all about Apple, Apple, Apple. She pleaded with me to get one so I appeased her and it’s suited my purposes for the most part.

[TonyMetal___86]

I don't understand why do you keep stalking him, not quite stalking but following his news and what he's doing in his new life while you know that it will only bring you more pain and you will be hurt more, you don't have to pretend that you're happy for them, like why would you want to even be happy for them while they doesn't care about you and don't know of you're alive or dead...

He is your ex for a reasons right? Just forget about him completely and stop thinking about him once and for all, focus on your life and make a new happy lifr for you because that's what matters, when you turn the page and starts a new life, you will feel like this past have never existed in the 1st place, you're just ruining your life as long as you're follwing his news and what he's doing in his life, if he was so good and things have worked out with both of you than you would be together by now but it failed, so just turn your back and move one, i know that at 1st it hurts a lot but with time, the wounds will heal and when you meet someone good in your new life, all your sad past will be over...
It's your choice, if you want to succeed in your life or make it a failure filled with negativity and depression...

[TonyMetal___86]

Personally i reached a point in my life where i don't care about my ex anymore, don't wanna see her or hear about her or know anything about her, she's over as if she have never existed in my life...

I had enough pain and destruction because of her, i don't care if she burns in hell, at 1st i used to still care than i was so wrong, sometimes you have to turn your heart into a rock so that people don't take advantage of you...

[sage2021]

It was a big pill for me to swallow.
She came from a family with money, I didn't.
So when they came back from their honeymoon wearing matching shirts that said "We just came back from the Caribbean". La de dah!
Then they drove off with my little so in their new Porche that her Dad got for them.
I couldn't compete with her. I felt so bad after seeing them together and so happy. All I had were the 4 walls to look at because I wasn't getting child support from him. I was broke and so sad.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

How did you move on?

[sage2021]

@LaFemmeFatale_1
They ended up divorcing a few years later. Then he lives with another young lady for 11 years, but never married her.
Enough about him..

I'm not sure I ever moved on from him even though the years went by.

I finally met someone that made me forget about my husband - but it took until I was in my early 60's.
He died two months ago. We shared a lot of fun during the first year. Then he moved away for a few years and came back to me. This time for 1-1/2 years. He was saying it's his favorite time of the year starting Halloween and Christmas because of how fun it is to decorate the lights and decorate our little apartment. But he didn't quite make it to Halloween. Christmas will be hard on me just as it was in 1978 at Christmas when my husband left Dec. 2nd. 1978. Here I am again, alone in 2023 on Christmas. 🌲⛄🌲
So, you tell me, did I really get by?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Sorry for your loss…

I hope you’ll manage to leave the past behind and enjoy your loneliness.

My mother tells me

“Why do you want to marry? Why do you want to wait till you fall in love again? It’s wnough to love someone who will love you and have fun with him. Marriage is not what you imagine It to be. It’s difficult. It’s not a fairytale. If I was your age, I’d not get married anytime soon.”

I think she tells me the right thing, has he stayed, you’d probably eventually get tired of him, he’d hurt you much more times probably and you’d one day get tired of your marriage.

Instead now you are free, alone but free, with a beautiful memory of someone you loved, and maybe that’s the idealized version of him, but you have a child from him too.

So, I’d say, enjoy the Christmas, for yourself and for your 2nd love.

And remember life goes on.

You’re 69, they say people have 2 happiest ages in life, one at 23 and another starts after 69. I wish you’ll find the joy in your life.

Wish you the best

[Anonymous]

I found out my ex had been talking to a scam artist and had her on his FB list and I was trying really hard to tell him this but he would not listen to me. He finally put me back on FB and I could see then for myself she was a scammer and then one day when she unfriended him (Had not spoke to my ex (her) for a few months, she got nervous I was back and that I knew what she was. That bothered me.

[Bethany22]

If the new girlfriend is prettier than me, then it hurts, because then I know he's completely over me.

[Kingofkings1992]

Prettiness is subjective.

[AviatorTom]

I feel good for them. It didn't work for me and her but it is working out for her and him.

[mandyfire98]

I think how most people are. It's just natural I feel. If we just broke up and an ex was seeing someone I'd feel curious, a bit jealous I guess to a small extent. Wondering if they think the other person is better then me. However just like most people if someone is in my life already then I'm concentrating more on the new relationship and not focused at all on my ex. It's kind of out of sight out of mind thing.

[yourfriendrob]

Hey there! 😊🌈 I totally understand how it feels to see your ex with someone new and have mixed emotions about it. It can be tough, but remember, you deserve to be with someone who truly appreciates and cherishes you. ❤️🌟


Seeing your ex move on can bring up negative feelings, but it's important to focus on your own happiness and growth. 🌸✨ Take this as an opportunity to embrace new possibilities and find someone who is an even better fit for you. 🙌💖


You're a beautiful soul, and you deserve someone who will appreciate and love you for who you are. 🌟💖 Don't let the past hold you back from an amazing future. Embrace your journey and know that there's someone out there who will make you feel like the most special person in the world. 🌈🌟💕

[Guido]

I have never seen her with anyone. 30 years later she is still single and alone. according to my kids.

I do know she turned very bitter when she saw me with a new girlfriend and that I was happy.

She thought she could do better and that really didn't work out for her.

[Sofargone93]

I'd be happy to see my ex happy. Just because we didn't work out doesmt mean I should feel bitter or jealous. We all grow at different rates. Sometimes you ex needs to find the right guy to deal with the shit you wouldn't. Wish them peace and happiness and even marriage.. seeing your ex with another person is a strong reminder for both. Why am I not with her. Why did it end and did I forgive myself for what I did and didn't do. Leave the rest to God and snore heavy at night 🤘

[BoopBoopBeep]

I'm over all my exes. I don't feel anything. Happy for them I guess? Same way I'm happy for a robin that gets a juicy worm, then I don't think about it ever again on the next breath, because honestly I just don't care but I'm trying to be nice because they mattered greatly to me once.

[lilBigPotato]

I try to not think too much about it. Unless she's really standing out (in a good or bad way) I will probably just think good for him and move on. I don't have any desire to go back to any of my ex bfs but I also don't feel deep hatred or any other strong emotion that would get triggered when seeing them with someone new

[Sevenpointfive]

this happened last week to me. i just waved and smiled. the guy with her had no clue. we were grocery shopping so i couldn't really gauge her happiness picking out a can of whatever lol, but it hurt a little to see them together. in my head i was thinking why him?

[FreyaRed]

So... he finally find new stupid one who buys his empty promises and lies

[FreyaRed]

*found

[SongBird3]

Well considering I am married now, have a house, and a loving puppy. I feel nothing except pity for the poor girl. Except for my first love, he was a good dude, I would be very happy for the couple

[Anemone978]

I don't actually have any ex's but of the guys I liked, I couldn't care less who they are with lol

[JacobJordan]

don't have any exes but if I did I wouldn't care. I wouldn't be looking. they an ex for a reason so I would have moved on with my life and wouldn't have thought about them again

[Miristheiss]

It has never happened to me before. I've never kept in contact with exes for kept them around in my life so I never witnessed what they were up to.

[Anonymous]

A bit frustrated, but I understand that I was her first boyfriend and it is natural that she needs to have more experience. I know that if she sees that I don't care about it, she will respect me more. Maybe if she breaks up with him, she will realize I was better for her. Maybe not. It doesn't matter.

[balyai]

I don't care. I'm happy that I'm not with my ex cause she was toxic

[DizzyDesii]

I still think “they lost a good one and she’ll never compare”

[SolitarySolace]

All of my exes cheated on me and most ended up with the guy she cheated with. I felt sorry for the dudes because if they cheated to be with them she’s definitely going to cheat on him too.

[TomMarks]

I feel a genuine sense of pity for the guy with her. I know what kind of girl she turned out to be and he will find out too late, just like I did.

[PreciousJewel]

My parents thought me to give my old toys to the less fortunate.