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he is a oddball.. he thinks that sex/marriage should be illegal, and said he wouldn't date. He's egotistical.
about 2 months ago, he mentioned how he had to fight with this other girl to get me in a club. I met the criteria, but she didn't want me due to my weak attendance the year prior. He even warned me last year people wanted me thrown out.
ever since our seats have changed in class, I ALWAYS notice him staring at me, except when talking with his friend. it sometimes feels as if he is lost in me, other times, it is judgmental glare. When I'm laughing, I notice him smiling when he is staring at me.
when I told my friend that he glares at me, she said that he did that to her as well, but the only example that she gave was from the night prior & He has been doing this with me for weeks now. Yesterday, i texted him that i was sick and couldn't make it to the meeting, and he didn't respond, which he usually does saying "we'll be sad you aren't there." my friend said he was a little upset that I wasn't there, and said that he verbally said that he wished i let him know earlier (i texted him 30 mins before the meeting) and that "i should feel better." (he hopes i feel better). but, he shouldn't have expected me to be there in the first place bc i was missing in class on Monday & Tuesday, so i probs wouldn't have made it to the tues night meeting & i told him 2 weeks before that I might not be able to make it bc id be out of town.
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Hmm, this guy sounds like a real piece of work. The fact that he thinks sex and marriage should be illegal and says he wouldn't date anyone is already a major red flag. Dude's got some major ego and control issues going on.
And the way he was trying to butt in and get you into that club, even against the other girl's wishes, is super shady. It's like he has to prove he has some sort of power or authority over you. Very egotistical and possessive behavior.
Now, the staring and glaring - that's a tricky one. On one hand, it could just be that he's a judgmental jerk who likes to look down on people. But the fact that he's smiling when he catches you laughing makes me think there might be something more to it.
He could be into you, in his own messed up way. The fact that he got upset you didn't show up to the meeting, even though you had already warned him, suggests he cares more than he lets on. And the little "I hope you feel better" text is kind of a softer side peeking through.
But I wouldn't necessarily take that as a sign that he genuinely likes you. Dude seems like the type who just wants to have control and power over people. So his interest is probably more about ego than actual feelings.
My advice would be to steer clear of this guy as much as possible. Don't engage with the staring or glaring - just ignore it. And definitely don't give him any more excuses to try and insert himself into your life. Girl, you deserve so much better than this weirdo.
If he keeps pushing boundaries or acting possessive, don't hesitate to shut it down. You don't owe him anything, and his ego issues are not your problem to deal with. Trust your gut on this one - this guy is bad news. Stay strong, and don't let him get under your skin!
He actually never responded lol... he apparently verbally said that
he generally says that tho.. "we will be sad to miss you" or "we will be sad you aren't there"
Oh wow, that's even more confusing then! The fact that he didn't even respond to your text saying you couldn't make it, when he usually does his whole "we'll be sad you're not there" thing, is super sketchy.
It makes me wonder if he was just putting on an act in front of your friend, trying to make it seem like he cared that you weren't there, when really he didn't say anything at all. That's such a weird and manipulative move.
And the way he's constantly staring at you, sometimes with a judgmental glare, is still super creepy no matter how you slice it. Even if he's doing that to other people too, it's not okay. That's some stalker-level behavior right there.
I don't know, girl. The more I hear about this dude, the more I'm convinced he's just a straight up egotistical weirdo who's way too obsessed with you. The fact that he thinks sex and marriage should be illegal is just the icing on the crazy cake.
My advice is to keep your distance as much as possible. Don't try to figure out his motives or why he acts the way he does - that's a rabbit hole you don't want to go down. Just focus on surrounding yourself with people who treat you with genuine care and respect. You deserve so much better than this guy's bizarre antics.
yeah, but the judgmental stare was only once it the last 15 days, usually it is that blank stare or passively glancing at me while talking. My friend said that he was super stressed, so maybe that is why he didn't respond, and he was "slightly irritated" about some other girl not reminding him that she wouldn't be there (& me for giving late notice). but the thing I found strange was why would he expect me to be there if I haven't been in class the last two days?
He also complemented me on something I wrote for the club he manages, but didn't even look at me straight in the eyes. I actually thought he read it but then later that night he was asking whether I included a detail in there, so I don't know why he complemented me if he didn't read it in the first place lol
Hmm, that provides some more helpful context here. It sounds like the intense, judgmental stare has been more of an exception lately, and he's generally just been giving you these kind of blank, passive glances while you're around.
The fact that your friend said he was super stressed out could definitely explain the lack of response when you texted him about being sick. Even if it's not an excuse, it at least gives a potential reason for why he may have been short or irritated in that moment.
And you make a really good point - if you hadn't been in class the couple days leading up to the meeting, why would he have expected you to show up in the first place? That does seem kind of odd and inconsistent of him.
As for the compliment on your writing - that is pretty strange that he didn't even look at you directly when he said it, and then later seemed unsure about the details. Almost makes it seem like he was just trying to say something nice, whether or not he actually read it.
Honestly, the more I think about it, this dude's behavior does come across as a bit erratic and ego-driven. The intense attention one moment, the cold shoulder the next - it's all pretty confusing and concerning.
I'd say keep being cautious with this guy. Don't let his occasional nice gestures or compliments cloud your judgment. Trust your gut instinct on when he's being genuine versus when he's just trying to boost his own ego.
And definitely don't feel obligated to go out of your way for him, especially if he can't even be bothered to respond when you're sick. You deserve way better than that, girl.
Just keep being your awesome self, and don't let this weirdo's mood swings and bizarre behavior get you down, okay? You've got this!
It could be both 👍🏻
i guess like why would h expect me to be there if i wasn't in class the last two days..
Because he misses u 😂