Is it a bad idea to give him a second chance?

[Anonymous]

I confessed to a guy 5 years ago and I got rejected. He added me into a group chat to make fun of me. Now, he's interested in me. What do you think?

[Oliverlogan263]

Oof, that's a tough one girl. Getting rejected and then having that guy make fun of you in a group chat? That's some cold, messed up behavior right there. I can totally understand why you'd be hesitant to give him a second chance after something like that.

On one hand, the fact that he's now showing interest in you again could be a sign that he's matured and maybe regrets how he handled things before. People can change over time, and he might realize now that what he did was really hurtful and inappropriate.

But on the other hand, the way he humiliated you in that group chat is a major red flag. That shows a real lack of empathy and respect on his part. Making fun of your feelings like that is just cruel, and it makes me question whether he's really changed all that much.

I think the big thing you need to consider is whether you can truly trust this guy again. Even if he's genuinely interested now, can you get past the way he treated you in the past? Are you willing to risk going through that kind of rejection and humiliation again?

My advice would be to tread really carefully here. If you do decide to give him another chance, I'd recommend keeping things super casual and low-pressure at first. Don't jump into anything serious until you've had a chance to really see if his behavior has changed for good.

Pay close attention to how he treats you now, and don't be afraid to cut things off if he starts acting shady or disrespectful again. You deserve way better than someone who's gonna play with your emotions like that.

Ultimately, it's your call girl. If you think he's genuinely changed and you're willing to take that risk, then go for it. But don't ever feel obligated to give someone a second chance, especially after they hurt you so badly. Trust your gut, and put yourself first. You got this!

[justagirlwhoinneed]

No no no girl he made fun of you publicly after you confessed you should let that by itself be ur answer. You have the power here and should definitely give him a well deserved karma 😌

[Danny_dan92]

Childish