Should I give him a second chance?

[Anonymous]

So recently started dating this guy (48) we had 3 good dates. His birthday was on VD anyways after celebrating he called me a “sexy Bitch” while walking in public, well that spoiled the night and we went opposite ways.. he’s asking for a second chance, and said he meant it as compliment and joke.. after he saw I was upset he change it to saying I’m beautiful 😂

[SueShe]

No, in no case!

If he has so much respect for you to call you what he did, just imagine the kind of respect he will have if you do something that does not please him. I see him as a person that is a deep red flag and according to his verbal reaction, I would not be surprised if he is also physically abusive. He may not be now because you did not give him any reason to be but if you dare to have a different opinion from his, I would not be surprised if he would lose control of himself.

That is a dangerous person and I certainly would take my distance from him. Better be safe than sorry.

[SnowedIn]

So, I'm the fifth person to respond as I type this. Everyone else has said no. I respect those opinions.

I say "yes". Here's why. First, everyone makes mistakes. Some are egregiously stupid. This sounds like one of those. And, yes, maybe this is a window into his inner character. But maybe it's not. You said you had three good dates. Maybe that's worth another date and a discussion of whether that was the true him or a reflection (extremely badly phrased) of how much he admires you.

Or, maybe you have dates raining from the trees and he's not worth your time -- that's legit too.

I just think that one comment (as terrible as it was) from a collective four dates (his comment was at the end it seems from what you wrote) doesn't warrant immediate blocking/ghosting/ending of whatever you and he might have been building.

[Guy13]

Second stances are overrated. No

[BarryLiverstone]

Yes give him another chance

[Anonymous]

No, he sounds like an ass.

[Anonymous]

I find it a compliment. Only a bit unconventional

[In_Trance]

No. Move on