Shy and interested vs shy and disinterested?

[Anonymous]

What are signs or behaviors that might indicate a guy being shy and interested vs shy and disinterested?

[slippery2000]

Being someone who has trouble initiating conversations with people I don't know and also lacks self esteem, I am very likely to be the type who would be attracted to someone but wouldn't make an attempt to make the first move. I would instead be stealing glances in hopes of not getting caught but secretly wishing the other party isn't freaked out if they notice me looking and them make the first move or initiating conversation.

[Anonymous]

It really depends on the guy. I'm shy. If i like a girl, I will constantly steal glances. When I'm around her I get extremely anxious.

[Asker]

thank you!

[Anonymous]

If he looks not interested then he's not interested

[Asker]

no he does. but I asked that question more specifically because sometimes shy people appear disinterested when actually interested due to embarrassment

[Opinion Owner]

You're in luck because I'm having the exact same situation with someone right now me showing disinterests when im actually have interests. She's always very near me when she sees me and when I always looked up. Poof There she is..

[Asker]

omg no way! bc I’m more shy when I like a guy and I try to mask that I like him. not as much now. but before. and well this guy I like is kind of shy too. I would be around a guy but not say anything or look

[Opinion Owner]

When she's around me, she doesn't look at me. There was a time her friends came in and checked me out. All three of them, including her, all giggled at me when i looked up and see whats all the laughing was all about. Surely it was me.

[Asker]

oh wow! that sounds like something me and my friends would do lol. so what are signs that you are shy and interested vs shy and disinterested in a girl? Is there a way for us to tell if a shy guys likes us

[Opinion Owner]

Every shy guy is different. Let's use me.

If I'm interested and shy. I'll have a hard time looking at you when you're not looking. If she's really crushing me, I'll be on my phone a lot, telling my friends about you. If I'm around you or accidentally, I'll try to avoid you. Even you're trying to signal him to approach you, but won't that because his fears of rejections could be kicking in. Also, drinking lots of fluids, if you close to him or starts eating fast

If I'm uninterested and shy. Ill give you all disinterests or not interested at all signs. Give you disinterest looks or mean faces or looks. Possibly avoiding places she could be at like her workplace for instant and lastly flat out tell you he's not interested

If you know for sure, he likes you. Someone has to break the ice

[Asker]

Hi thank you for your response! He does all of what you mentioned as far as being interested. However I am really confused by him. My sister sent him a DM around two years ago telling him I liked him and he didn’t respond. I assumed he wasn’t interested and moved on with my life. However, he kept showing me other indications along with the ones you mentioned that he is into me. Fast forward two years we finally talk and flirt. So, this time I DM’d him but he ignored me. He still flirts with me in person though. So I’m really confused. One time I waited two weeks to respond to his message however because I was a little nervous. I feel I am getting mixed signals and am confused as to where he stands since he is also shy but is nice in person and not the same way online:/

[Opinion Owner]

Sounds like he's not interested in you if he's giving you mixed signals because at my old workplace, a coworker did the samething mixed signals but far more cruel like harassing, bullying, breadcrumbing and ghosted. I was at a bad place at the time. Thank you for also helping me on my end too

[Asker]

Oh ok well thank you! Of course.