THE MOST CONFUSING SITUATIONSHIP EVER HELP?

[Anonymous]

i’ve met this guy through friends and he is not my major or even the same age as me, he is known for being extremely polite and gentle, he is never been in a rs or a situationship. A month later i had a fight with his friend group and we all stopped being friends he then started reaching out to me unlike everyone else in the group then we started being friends then he got into a really bad car accident he stopped coming to campus for 4 months when he came back he told me that he is on my side and that this fight with his friends has nothing to do with him we became friends again then we hung out once in the summer keep in mind he is never been on a date before or even hung out with a girl he never dated anyone either, he was flirting and at the end of the date he said he didn’t want to leave and time moved so fast AND THE EYE CONTACT AND BODY LANGUAGE GAVE IT AWAY and that he has to see me again we hung out again once then uni started we text every 1-2 weeks and he is very interested in my life always says he misses me and always checks up on me on a weekly basis i told him last month i feel like sometimes you’re a bit distant he sent me so much paragraphs about how much he loves me “you’re one of the people i love so much, love talking to, love listening to” and even called me to reassure me till now I don't know where we stand and he mentioned how he doesn’t believe in relationships in college we’re def not friends considering the way he acts when im around how he speaks just his body language and im just so in love with him but i feel like there will be no progress ever its very frustrating and i can’t move on from someone giving me this type of treatment and affection and he is not a player i’ve been told by his friends and so many others

[ohsheeT]

Well it kind of sucks that he can't just be one person I mean no matter where you are he should treat you the same as he always treats you
Busy being cold to try to protect you in a roundabout way

If so that doesn't even make sense there's no reason for him to be one person one minute and another person another minute

And if you can't be honest with you or himself there's something that you really need to think about because

It's not right for you and if there's a reason for him doing what he's doing you should confront you and tell you and you should ask him if he doesn't tell you because there is a reason for everything you just need to find out what it is

[bobalife]

You have to assert your standard and boundaries that you want a relationship. If not, then yalls can only be “just friends” because he’s not gonna give you what you deserve which is > commitment <


Explore why he don’t believe in relationships in college period and why not try it out if it’s just fears > reality. But you can never change someone if he still refuse. Then, move on and just be friends or cut him off even though it’s hard… it’s the right thing to do.

[bobalife]

Wow this is such a weird glitch… it cut off some parts of my message. I was trying to say you can also explore why he doesn’t believe in college relationships and if he’s open to trying things out because it sounds like fears and not reality. But just know you can’t change someone if he refuse.

[In_Trance]

Move on