I've been with a guy for 4 years have a daughter but he refused to get married?

[Anonymous]

We have a daughter and on ldr and have met 4x over 4 years every time I bring up marriage it leads to argument cause he always make me or my behavior as an excuse but I feel like it's from his emotional baggage from the past cause he was divorced. Should I leave?

[RavVid]

You are having a long distance relationship and have met 4 times in years? I am surprised the daughter happened. I don't see how a ldr father works for her.

`Sadly women like your self are suffering due to the proclivity with which women are now divorcing men. For myself I have no intention of marrying and some woman will find me as equally difficult as you are finding your ldr.

The why is that the median length of marriage is 8 years and in 70% of those divorces it was initiated by the wife. In 10% of of those divorces it is initiated by the husband so there is a 7:1 proclivity rate. In the other 20% the divorce is a joint application. They are probably cases of known infidelity and infidelity is a proactive way of initiating divorce. Mostly women cheat so it is most likely 80+% of divorces initiated by wives.

Just when I am building up assets for a moderately wealthy life, I will lose at least 50% of it in a divorce which is a coin toss probability. Can you see why I won't marry even though I'd quite like a stable marriage, building a life together etc etc.

Your LDR has been through divorce so he knows all this from lived experience. It is very dismissive to call this baggage.

You could try offering him a reasonable prenup and that might overcome his reluctance. Or just accept marriage is off the table now.

Overall I think women have to accept marriage is increasingly unlikely now.

[Anonymous]

Well first of all I would t get married to someone is I was in an LDR that for sure. Especially if we only met 4 times. As far as I’m concerned you’re just a piece of side action in his eyes. You’re not the girl. You could leave but at your age w a child most men aren’t going to go for that. Even if it is from his past, he has feelings. Respect them. You should have thought about that before getting knocked up for him.

[EmmaMary]

Having had sexual intercourse only four times in four years, you've certainly been very lucky indeed in becoming pregnant.

[Asker]

Yes pregnant in first meeting

[EmmaMary]

Thank you so much for the MHO.

[Abbycado]

You can’t make someone that doesn’t want marriage to marry you. You either leave or put up with not being married.

[Summeroflove]

You cannot force someone to marry you…. You can eventually move on but this is what happens when people start having sex out of we’d lock.

[Ariesman81]

The thing is... you're both right.

[In_Trance]

Why do you need to get married

[Anonymous]

Why would you breed with a man like that?