I am guy who finds it difficult to get along with other guys. Is there something wrong with me?

[EastCoastDude]

Since childhood, I always had difficulty getting along with the xy chromosome. Since sports and athletics weren’t my strong suit, a lot of boys would call me sissy or f*g boy. To this day, the memories are quite painful. Besides having friends from the opposite sex, I would always take pleasure in hip hop music, playing house with girls, stuffed animals/dolls/plushes, writing raps, reading, and hip hop/break dancing. Boys were extremely mean. Which resulted in me developing a hate towards masculinity. For example, I viewed playing with action figures, getting sweaty, playing sports, and wanting muscles/weight lifting as repulsive hobbies/wants. As I experienced my 13th or 14th planetary rotation, I accepted the fact that my sex/gender wouldn’t change. In other words, I accepted the fact that I was born a dude.

As a 26 year old man who has worked in construction for five years, I find men to be very difficult. Working with men can be such hell. That is, everyone wants to be a team leader instead of a team player, men turn every little situation into a competition, dudes are overly aggressive, blurt out nasty and sarcastic comments, men are such arrogant narcissists, and they gossip more than the “National Inquirer”. I am a man who likes to sweat, get dirty, and work hard. Unfortunately, I can’t deal with this machismo behavior. I am thinking about leaving this specific industry. I have worked with females in the past; yes females have their side effects. Females are no where near as toxic as males.

[CheeseMonster]

It sounds like you've grown a bit misandrist to be frank, like the mirrored version of how many women have trouble getting along with other women if they get stuck in a mysoginist "not like other girls" mindset where they constantly put down their own gender and simplify everything into "boys good girls bad."

It's fine to have women friends and not many or any men friends, but thinking in that simplistic binary where you judge everyone solely by gender is only going to hurt you and your relationships in the long run. There's nothing wrong with being a man or with liking masculine things, and while yes some workplaces are way more toxic than others, you will be disappointed if you find a job with mostly (or all) women coworkers and expect it to be free of gossip and power struggles.

[EastCoastDude]

I don’t think I am a misandrist per se, it is just that I find it difficult for o get along with dudes. I don’t judge people by their genders, I look at people as individuals. If a person, whether male or female is cool with me, then I am cool with them.

I think mentioned in this post that’s I have worked with females. And, I think I mentioned that females have their side effects. In other words, if I work with females I am not expecting it be peaches and cream. It is just that I do better with females.

I guess you can call me a misandrist when it comes to dating. Though I am sexually attracted to both genders, I prefer to date women despite their witch like side effects. I dated a guy once and it was a horrific experience. He was a complete douchebag. From my experience, I think women make better lovers/friends with benefits than men.

[EastCoastDude]

That I have*

[CheeseMonster]

You say you judge as individuals, but read back everything else that you have just written. You constantly judge men and women as entire groups with no room for exceptions.

Yousay if someone is cool with you you're cool with them, yet you've never found a man who is cool with you? Not a lot sure, but none? This more likely indicates that you could accidentally be acting toxic somehow, than it is likely that literally every other man you've met has been toxic.

[EastCoastDude]

I have a male friend who I have been cool with since I was 13 years old. I don’t hate men. In a nutshell, I am just stating the men can be difficult. And as a parking attendant, I treated everyone with kind kindness regardless of their gender, race and/or
Religion.

[Anonymous]

Honestly just reading this you sound as though you give off feminine tested. A feminine vibe. Where was your father in your life? A lot of men don’t talk the way you do. This sounds more like how women would talk.

[EastCoastDude]

My father was present in my life, and growing up we did but heads. But today the relationship is stronger. I will be the first to tell you that I own a lot of feminine energy. As you can see my problems stemmed from childhood. Though I internally have a feminine vibe, I am blue collared male owns pungent set of armpits, enjoys weightlifting , likes working with his hands and getting sweaty. For the note, I have been told I have the most masculine walk in this country.

If one is cool with me and I’m cool with him/her.

[Opinion Owner]

So do you get your feelings hurt easily or take things personally?

[EastCoastDude]

Sometimes

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe I’m wrong but a lot of this probably stems from your mom.

[EastCoastDude]

Perhaps, but I was teased my boys as a kid. Plus as a boy I was never competitive and as man I don’t have the competitive nature. That why I enjoy deejaying and writing raps

[Opinion Owner]

Was your father the same? Who was more dominants in the relationship mom or dad?

[EastCoastDude]

Both were in my life, but I was closer to my moms growing up. My pops thought I was going through the Oedipus complex

[Opinion Owner]

So that explains a lot as to why you’re more feminine. Father was masculine?

[EastCoastDude]

Yes ver. But if you saw me you would think I didn’t own any feminine energy

[EastCoastDude]

What so you know about the oedipus complex?

[EastCoastDude]

Seems like you’re ignoring the fact that guys can be douchebags.

[freeta]

Honestly, nothing is wrong with you if you don't get along with other guys, its perfectly ok to like girls more than guys,

[rachel776]

it's fine, everyone's different