I met him in my Ph. D. program. Our field is very female dominated, and he's the only man in the class. I'm very introverted and have severe social anxiety. Even in social settings, I still talk really fast and stammer. He's not very talkative himself, but being the only guy in the class gained him some popularity. Not to mention, he has a snarky personality that people like. Not to mention, he got along instantly with another girl in the class "Sammi", but Sammi is in a relationship so I don't think he likes her like that.
Even though we considered each other friends before my birthday party, we weren't super close. He seemed to feel more comfortable talking to other people over me. It was quite surprising that he agreed to come to my birthday party. I decided to be bold and send an invite to everyone on the class group chat. He was one of the first (and only!) people to come to my party. Not only did he come, but he came with a huge bouquet of pink roses. These roses were gorgeous. 3 dozen+ roses, and adorned with beautiful pink wrapping.
To this day, while he and I very much get along, he still prefers to talk to literally anyone but me. Even though I try cracking jokes with him from time to time, it's like nothing I do gets him to soften up. I know he doesn't dislike me, and he's shown from time to time that he really does care for me. It's just an isolating feeling. I've always found him attractive, but I've been good about suppressing my feelings for him. But when he gave me those roses, how could I not have fallen in love?
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I think this was a wonderful gesture and I do not want to take away from it, but from what I’ve seen flowers are a common gift that people will give when they don’t know what else. It is always safe, beautiful, and appreciated. I bring flowers to house warming parties, and have certainly bought them to a birthday party for someone I’m cordial with but don’t know well, along with a card. I’ve even done flowers, gift card and written card. I know he’s a guy but I don’t think it makes a difference to the gesture because realistically, you want to know someone’s taste to buy them jewelry, shoes or a personalized gift of that nature. He doesn’t know you that well at all, so this makes sense. Plus it’s rude to attend a bday party empty handed.
You fell in love because it was a guy who did this and you’ve never had one do any such gesture. You may have never had a serious boyfriend, or a boyfriend at all. Never had your doors opened for you, dates paid for, dates set, men have always been a let down. So when you have a guy do something like that, it’s impactful because you probably lost hope that men even do these thing nowadays. But they do, and it’s so nice to be reminded! Your classmate probably grew up around women and had that positive influence so he knows what to do.
Didn’t I read this yesterday?
gnarly