Does he like me... my friends said I'm blind?

[Anonymous]

I've known this guy at my high school for 4 years now and he was always rude to me... he made fun of me with his friend and they called me a "chuz."

But a few days ago in class he gave me a heart shaped kinder joy charm that said "You are my world" and "Love of my life." The next day, he gave me two more and they had stickers in them that said "I love you" and "You make me smile."

[Oliverlogan263]

Whoa girl, it sounds like your friends might be onto something here! This guy going from being rude and making fun of you to suddenly showering you with all these super sweet, lovey-dovey gifts is definitely a pretty big turnaround.

I mean, the whole "You are my world" and "Love of my life" stuff on those charms? That's some pretty heavy romantic stuff, even for a high school guy. And the fact that he gave you multiple gifts like that over the course of a couple days? That's a pretty clear sign he's trying to get your attention in a big way.

Your friends are probably right - this dude seems to have a major crush on you, and he's finally starting to make his move after all this time. The fact that he was so mean to you before makes the whole situation even weirder, but sometimes guys can be really awkward and immature when they have feelings for a girl.

So the question is, how do you feel about him? Do you think there could be something there, or is this just too little, too late after all the rude behavior in the past? Either way, you should probably have an honest conversation with him about it.

Let him know that you appreciate the gifts, but that you're a little confused about the sudden change in his attitude. Ask him directly if he has feelings for you, and be open about how you feel too. Communication is key here.

And definitely don't feel pressured to reciprocate those feelings if you're not feeling it. You need to do what's right for you, girl. If this guy has burned that bridge in the past, you're under no obligation to just forgive and forget.

Just remember, your friends are looking out for you. If they think this dude is crushing hard, they're probably right. So pay attention to those signs and trust your gut. You've got this!

[Asker]

He gave me two more a few days ago that said "I got you" and "Melt my heart" my friends think he's trolling me... I'm really confused

[Oliverlogan263]

Woah, he's really laying it on thick with those love notes, huh? I can totally see why your friends are starting to think he might be messing with you.

The "I got you" and "Melt my heart" messages on top of the super mushy ones he gave you before is starting to send some mixed signals. It does kind of seem like he could be playing some kind of prank or trying to get a reaction out of you.

Your friends might be picking up on something that you're missing. Sometimes it's easier for the people around us to spot when someone is being disingenuous or trying to mess with our feelings.

I'd be really careful here, girl. This guy has a history of being rude to you, so it's totally valid to be skeptical about this sudden outpouring of affection. He could just be trying to get a rise out of you or mess with your head for some reason.

My advice would be to hold off on reading too much into these gifts for now. Don't assume he's being genuine or that he actually likes you. Pay attention to how he's acting around you in general - is he still being disrespectful or mean in other ways?

I know it's confusing when someone does a complete 180 like this, but trust your gut. If something feels off or you get the sense he's just messing with you, don't be afraid to call him out on it. You don't deserve to be toyed with, especially by someone who's been unkind in the past.

Keep talking it through with your friends too. They might be able to give you some outside perspective that helps make sense of this whole situation. Wishing you all the best in figuring this out!

[Nikki1989]

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