Why are some men mean to women they like?

[Puppystarfish23]

There's this guy at my work and he's a really big guy in all senses. He's also Russian so maybe it's a cultural thing. He's well aware I'm married and I'm much older than him by around 8/9 years.

I'm not attracted to him in the slightest and I think he knows this. At first he was really nice and chatty with me but over time he started trying to annoy at work to the point it's almost bullying now but he thinks it's playful and banter but it's effecting my work and I don't think he quite understands that.

It's okay for him if he doesn't have a job he still lives at home whilst I have a house and husband to support if I can't do my job because he's messing me around it doesn't look good.

I'm also 5ft and this guy is 6ft7 and he's constantly using his weight and hight against me. Like blocking my way and taking my things and hanging them at a hight I can't get too.

All my friends have said he has a crush on me and that's why he does it because he thinks it's cute and funny to see me annoyed.

He's doing it less now since I made a joke about him sexually harassing me that soon made him shit himself but I just don't get these men who go after taken women firstly and secondly act like a dick towards them like how is that gonna make me like you?

[Summeroflove]

People who are mean to people they like are people who have been hurt and rejected so they’re trying to sabotage the relationship before you can. That or they are embarrassed/ashamed they like someone. Other times it could be more of playful intentions but they may not realize they are hurting someone. Other times someone genuinely doesn’t like someone or have nefarious intentions but someone just doesn’t want to see that so they make it into they must like them even if they don’t.

If he knows you’re not attracted then he’s probably butt hurt and is taking it as personal rejection. Which as for me if someone’s not attracted to me there is others who are and it doesn’t mean they are judging me as a human being. Same goes for when I’m not attracted to someone it doesn't always mean I’m judging them either.

But I can say if I like someone being mean to them is the last thing I’m going to do. Even if they aren’t attracted to me as long as they haven’t done anything to me I’m not going to be a ass to them.

But some people are just weird like that I don’t know what to tell you. You may need to file a HR report you’re not obligated to put up with someone else’s bullshit you never did anything to.

I will say as well…. If someone does judge me on a personal basis. Why would I want them anyways? But acting like that will make someone loose respect for you in every sense of it.

[NathanDavis]

sounds like he still has a juvenile style for these things