+1 yConfidence is absolutely one of the foremost qualities a woman will ever look for in a man. When guys ask the question of why nice guys finish last, it isn't that girls have a preference for bad boys over good ones. If anything, they will want a nice guy. It's that bad boys or edgy ones have a tendency to know what they want and pursue it assertively. Nice guys generally linger around in the background too shy to go up to a girl or to say what he really wants or how he really feels, and that's unappealing to women. Women want men who are strong and can stand up for themselves and their women, and that's what confident guys and assertive men do. If a guy can't take the heat, he's not going to last long in the kitchen. And by that, I don't me men should be these testosterone-filled balls picking fights with everyone and everything around them, that's just stupid. Women want men to know how to be strong and when to be and are adaptable. I can't tell you how unattractive it is when a guy starts insulting himself or making jokes at his own dispense or trying to use pity to get a date. Any man using any of those tactics will not attract an intelligent mature woman. If a person doesn't believe in themselves and their worth, it's going to be a pretty tough sell for them to get others to believe in them, too. Confidence is healthy, and will build stronger relationships.
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+1 ysometimes. if theyre confident 24/7 it = cocky which that = turn off. No girl wants to be with a guywho is full of himself. But if a guy is moderately confident, and happy with himself, doesn't have to change himself, he has esteem, and doesn't fall into peer pressure for anything or have to explain himself, then that is beyonddddddddd sexy. The last guy I iked he wasnt that good looking, but his attitude and the way he carried himself made him the sexiest thing ever. he thought aloud, didn't care what people think of him, he has his opinions on things and is social, outgoing open for discussion and shares his views freely, he likes expressing himself sharing what he likes and dislikes, doesn't care if people judge him. He has esteem and it doesn't put anyone else down or make other guys jealous either, which makes him sexy in the eyes of a woman. If a guy was shy and indecisive and jumpy, as in one thing one day and then something else another day, and would be upset about being single, then it'd be a turnoff...i guess in human nature we all like chase, and if a girl sees a guy who would settle for any girl at the moment because he's not confident, then its a turn off and shed move her interest over a 'hard to get' or a challenge type of a guy...who doesn't give a damn if he's single
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Anonymous(30-35)+1 yDisagree.
Confidence borders arrogance.
The sexiest thing is when he can hold your hand and kiss you in front of his friends, and say "I love you" first. . .that isn't confidence, that's "I love this girl, and I don't give a s**t what people have to say about that."
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+1 ywomen just say this to be teases to ugly guys. For example a guy like me could be confident and fun and yet if there was some emo loser who's sensitive and shy and had a great bod or was skinny, most girls would chose sensitive emo guy over confident big guy. at least the cute ones-
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Confidence is meaningless, everyone depends on others opinions. It is a vague positive quality women ascribe to men they feel attracted to for some real reason
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i absolutely agree--confidence! definately! I wish more guys had it. seriously. as for why, I can think of a million reasons. a confident guy will, for one, "be himself". also, I personally love playfulness, flirting, and good conversation, all of which require confidence as a prerequisite!
00 ReplyAgree. Just so long it is not arrogance. I think it is a subconcious thing with most women with the confidence factor, so don't expect them all to say yes. I've seen guys get a lot of play just by showing confidence. For one, the less confident guys won't approach as many girls as the confident ones. I'd say you have more of a chance of winning the lottery if you actually buy a ticket than someone who doesn't at all.
00 ReplyDisagree. It is indeed sexy but its not the sexiest. My reason is because he can be over-confident to where what I once thought that it was sexy is now annoying. Its good to be confident but don't turn into a jerk. However I think confidence is extremely sexy when a man approaches a women or when he uses his confidence in a good way.
10 ReplyNo what's sexy is when he can stay with one person instead of 3384103483920845721238483203849201 girls.
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Hahahahahahh that waas a funny comment... I laughed...
THere's not even that many people on the planet!.... or animals....
I hit the up arrow, just to make you happy haha
Agree to a certain extent. Guys that are confident and sure of themselves are sexy, but they must also be humble and ready to admit when they are wrong, otherwise they become cocky, self-righteous jerks.
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+1 yIf a guy is confident in himself and doesn't need a girl to tell him things he should know? Sexy. If he is so confident his ego is bulging out of his chest and it makes him out to be a douche? Not sexy
00 ReplyDisagree. Confidence is sexy, but of course in moderation. There are many things about a guy that are sexier than confidence. Such as being humble. Up top for modest guys.
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+1 yi agree a man is sexy when he's confident. but over-confidence is a major turnoff. know where the line is drawn.
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+1 yAgree. if a man is not confident he cannot be sexy. even bravado is sexier than a guy who is obviously insecure and doesn't think he's good enough.
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+1 ydisagree.
yes its important but there are other things like whether he really shows if he wants to be with me/spend time with me
that to me is sexy00 ReplyDisagree. Maturity, responsibility, kindness and respect are the most attractive traits in a man
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+1 ydisagree, it's not the sexiest feature but it is sexy
00 Replyagree. if he has self confidence he ll be a better person with me
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Anonymous(36-45)+1 yBULLSHIT. If a guy is hot they'll bang him. If not they throw him to the curb. End of story
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Anonymous(36-45)+1 yto me it is a plus, but it's not a must-have
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