Have you ever had a physical fight with a person of the opposite sex?

[YourFutureEx]

Men are way more powerful but hitting a woman can have severe consequences. This is a very tricky situation. Have you ever been in one? What was the result of it?

[Rosexøxø]

Well I had my fair share. It wasn’t a fight it was a beat down. I say to my boyfriend now. Thank god I’m not a man. Otherwise people would have serious issues with the anger and righteous anger I have had. A lot of people are lucky I don’t have the traits of a physical man. I’d most likely be in jail.

As a kid though. During a ballroom dancing class, my “partner” decided to start fondling/caressing my back in a sexual way. After 3 warnings I stood back and pushed him towards the ground. Asked for a new partner. The other boys laughed at him and a few girls who seen also. We all talked about it at lunch and he couldn’t even look me in the eye. Served him right. After that one of the boys in the group came up to me and said “Rose… I don’t … LIKE you… but you’re okay.”

and gave me a nod of acknowledgment. Then we all went inside. Best year of school in my life as well. Great year. BUT I had a few similar instances with guys trying to do physical maneuvers, and me making them cry for their mamas. And need I say more- they never made the same mistake twice… 🤷‍♀️

I value respect and that the weak do not be bullied. All this was pre puberty. I never attempted or had a goal of getting into fights with anyone. But I’ll certainly go out with a bang if I need to.

I have had my fair share of confrontations with guys. Even making an elder brother bleed and complain to my mom. Even another instance where a mentally challenged kid- who was adopted by some Christian lady, who knew my mom at this time, had jumped on me, and put me in a choke hold. I won’t say how (for confidentiality sake), but I got him bloodied too. In self defense of course. He was off of me at the speed of a triggered mouse trap. 🪤

And as I said. Never made the same mistake twice.

Am I bragging of this? Of course. I’m proud of handling myself when I had been WRONGED. And also. God only knows (if you believe in that sort of thing), why he didn’t make me a man. Cause people would not be able to handle me. Not at all. Specifically problematic men.

I control my temper. I discuss things. I communicate. And it’s all thanks to being a lady. That’s the only way I have learned to be reasonable. That. Good heart. And having grown up a Christian as well. lol

[Rosexøxø]

And no none of these were due to their gender. It was due to them disrespecting me. It’s a shame the differences in physicality are where they are for men and women and not more similar. That much I would’ve appreciated. Luckily and I’m grateful for the guys who do respect do behave with common courtesy and those who risk their lives for others- specifically women. And anyone who may need it.

Police. National Guard. SWAT. Everything. Any first responder and fire fighters as well. The whole sha-bang. Grateful for their contribution and the good mentality they carry. Without them the world wouldn’t be exactly- SPECIFICALLY, what it is today.

[YourFutureEx]

Appreciate the beauty of rose, but don't touch it. It has thrones. The scarlet petals aren't natural, it's bloodstained.

I am intrigued about the reason for your confidentiality about that fight with that unsound minded guy. Is it the thing you hit him with or is it the way you hit him? Anyways, you don't need to disclose. Whatever you did is justified because you have the right to self defence (and privacy lol)

I do not think your self assessment is correct. If you were a man, you wouldn't be violent. Your stories tell me that you are a strong woman with strong boundaries and values. If you were a man, you would be the same, right? Violence is not the character of strong men. It is the character of weak men who cannot control themselves. (Pretty much) Every man is capable of doing damage, but we don't because we have control over ourselves and that comes from our powerful mind. Weak men cannot control their strength and lash out. In all of your stories, either you gave warnings or acted only to defend yourself and that's what a strong man would do. He will try to neutralize the situation peacefully but won't back down when there's not a better option left.

So, I believe you should have a better opinion about yourself (at least in that regard). I loved the fact that you're not guilty and are proud. Good job increasing the hospital bills of those idiots.

[Rosexøxø]

lol the thing is I didn’t use any external objects or weapons, I just can’t share the actual method I used, otherwise people would become privy to it 😂.

And perhaps you could be right and I should reflect and adjust my self assessment, but I do know a few times I felt as if though I wanted to bring some sense of eternal torture to people who gave me issues. Usually disrespect. Toxic social behaviors. Crossing my own boundaries. I knew I never deserved. Always did my best to treat others well. So for some of these individuals to have done what they did (for me, unprovoked and uncalled for), just led the extreme anger I had (mostly in my teens) to want to bring the death penalty upon anyone who essentially crossed me LOL 😂

Like they take one step past my boundary I take 10 steps to push them far back behind the line 😂

Now I’m a bit more mellowed out and realize I can’t go to jail for hitting everyone. I let the police and lawyers settle the differences. It’s why I’m also grateful for police and other defense officials. They likewise things a bit more civilized and less brutally barbaric.

[Rosexøxø]

@YourFutureEx thank you for the kind words though and being understanding of my side! Much appreciated 😄😌💯

-fun question also!

[Genie23]

I wrestled with my brothers as a kid, lol. I mean, 2 out of 3 (Youngest bro was comparatively an angel) were super annoying and would always pick on me. So, I did Hai-Yaaaaa🙅🏻‍♀️

On a serious note- I'm so weak that I can't even carry 10 kg grocery bag. My girl former housemates helped me with heavy stuff when guy friends weren't around, so I'm smart enough to never engage in a physical fight with either of the gender 🤷🏻‍♀️

[YourFutureEx]

You're not just smart enough to not to engage in physical fights, you're smart enough to make everyone around you believe that you cannot lift 10 kg and make them work for you.

[Genie23]

LOL!! How I wish! I honestly tried to pick up those heavy stuff and kept on shifting weight from this hand to the other one. They offer help because they see me struggling 🙄 I'm smart but I'm NOT cunning 🤣

Jesus. I was about to hit on submit when I noticed my stupid autocorrect changed cunning to cu-

Nevermind

[YourFutureEx]

That's exactly what a cunning person would do. I know you're definitely lifting that 20KG tea bag on sale to your home if you see one (& if no one is seeing you).

Lmaooo I spit out my milk through nose. Autocorrect is like a parrot. It learns what it often hears 🙊

[Genie23]

LMAO!! You know me so well that if I ever see 20kg tea bag on sale, there's definitely not way in hell I'll let it slide (if I could pick it up)🤣

KAMINEYYYYY! 😭🤣🤣 I'm talking about my keyboard, not yours, lol

[YourFutureEx]

Hey, can you do me a favour? Please open the settings of your keyboard and turn this button off. Aapke keyboard ki sangati mein mera keyboard bigad jayega.

[Genie23]

[Effably]

Done enough martial arts that the answer is sort of. You still hold back, it might be disrespectful but you do.

In general my findings is that an entry level professional guy is the equivalent of a top level professional woman. E. g a solid amateur fighter man is about as good as a champion level woman in the same field. That might be a tad generous to women.

It still means a professional female fighter will smoke most guys. But well, you just need ten seconds of turning the play wrestling with a partner serious and trying to actually restrain each other to see that while humans do not have extreme sexual dimorphism, indeed much less than many species, we are still very different. For the typical man and woman its about the same gap as an adult and a child.

[RavVid]

Yes. I had been visiting a girl for a while and it seemed to being going well. Somebody had given me an Easter egg and I took it along on my next visit. She hoed into and I thought I would take a piece before it was all gone.

That set her off. She had already got a bit drunk and got very angry. Started punching, kicking and trying to knee. It was pretty easy to deflect her punches but in retreating and blocking round the lounge room I got into a position where I was blocked.

So I rushed her to the couch and restrained till she had calmed down down. She then called the police claiming I had hurt her (in blocking her punches).

The Police were quite reasonable in my case and accepted my account.

[alice55]

One Time but he did not hit me back I only kicked him because he was bullying my friend during months and I got féd up with him. Then he just tried to make me feel guilty saying I hurted him but I just told him serve you right 😹😹

[alice55]

@Biricik did you have a fight with a Guy?

[YourFutureEx]

It feels so good to hear "you hurt me" from a bully's mouth

[alice55]

It definitely does, it served him right, I felt proud xD

[ThisDudeHere]

Well this girl once pulled my hair when I was 4 but I very bravely ran away

[YourFutureEx]

Very smart. You knew no girl is going to run after you.

[sawno]

No, I don't fight and thankfully I never ran into the crazy girls that go psycho.

[EmmaMary]

Never thankfully... And never wish to do so either.

[Pterodon]

Had a fist fight with a girl when I was a kid. Couldn’t help it. I was attacked

[Anonymous]

No, but if I were wrestling a hot girl, I wouldn't mind if she would win :P

[NathanDavis]

no, I am not insane

[serious]

Physical fight? No, never.

[msc545]

Yes, I have, and it was very bad.